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Isn't it rented in his name? It's his problem to figure out if that's the case. All you need to do is figure out, on your own, where you will live next. Tell him YOUR plans as to when you will leave the flat.
Isn't it rented in his name? It's his problem to figure out if that's the case. All you need to do is figure out, on your own, where you will live next. Tell him YOUR plans as to when you will leave the flat.
No it's rented in both of our names. I want to keep the flat whilst he goes travelling, but I can't commit to it as I don't have a job at the moment and I'm in the process of looking for one.
Alex has mentioned that it would be ideal if I could keep the flat so that he can go travelling and when he gets back we can start of where we left off. He wants some breathing space and to be able to take a break to go travelling freely without being tied down financially....
Wed be able to keep the flat as it is with all of our possessions and furniture.
Alex said that I'd have to transfer all of the bills to my name as their all written in his name. Also, he said that he would probably be willing to pay some rent whilst he's travelling but only a small amount. (I asked him this first)
What can I do?
I'm being pressured by Alex to make a decision by the end of next week. I need to speak to the letting agents too. If I could find a full time job, I'd keep the flat no trouble, it's my home, but I've been on 3 job interviews this week and I haven't had any offers. How can I make a decision? I'm still job hunting.
I'm emotionally attached to the flat, it feels like my home, my one and only home. I'm not ready to leave, I never imagined this. I love our flat so so much.
Please do not let this man talk you into giving him a flop house to come back to when he’s done “spending time” with other girls. That IS what he will be doing.
Keep looking for a job, get a loan from your folks to secure the flat, pay them back with Your earnings and tell him that he’s not welcome back when he leaves.
This is a terrible idea. You do not have the means to take on that financial responsibility. If you take on everything in your name, then he has no responsibility to come back for any of it. I see ghosting in your future.
Last edited by fleetiebelle; 11-17-2018 at 10:55 AM..
There's nothing you can do, because you don't have a job. Does he know you don't have a job? This makes no sense. Use this opportunity---YES, it's an opportunity, not a crisis--to fold up the relationship and move back with your parents, and work on your personal issues, as you were advised in your now-closed thread.
He wants to travel without having financial obligations? How is he paying for all this travel?! What does that even mean??! It should be getting more clear to you every day, that he's been using you all along, and this is the ultimate proof. He's not into you, OP. Face it. Seriously consider taking break from your big-city life with its overwhelming financial responsibilities, retreating to your parents' place, and working on yourself.
Even if you did get a job, you wouldn't be able to afford the flat and the utilities on your own. You'd end up losing the flat, while he was overseas somewhere, having a good time. Don't box yourself into this corner.
It sounds like he is planning on starting a relationship with someone else and leaving you with all the bills, and wont help. This really sounds like a bad setup.
Sell off all of your stuff on FB market place and Go to your parents house.
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