Married women: Do you find being referred to as "The wife" offensive? (older, college)

[MinivanDriver]

I think people are way too quick to take offense.



Mind you, had you said, "My old lady," that would be something different.



Also, at a wedding reception, someone actually introduced his spouse as, "My current wife." Things got frosty in a hurry on that one.

[ClaraC]

It sounds a little dismissive. I prefer "my wife", or if the person actually would know my name, I'd prefer my husband use my name.

The Wife sounds a little like The Missus.

[johngolf]

Some are called a Spousal Unit..........

[ellybelly83]

People used to refer to me as so and so's wife. I had moved to his town when we married but after a decade it was about time i was addressed by my name first, it made me feel like property.
If he called me the wife i don't think i would care though, i would often refer to him as the hubs.

[North Beach Person]

Originally Posted by Nov3

nope! Beats being called "the ole lady", "the other Woman" , "the other Half" . Acknowledging the marital stat is okay. When out and about I often said " This is my Husband , (insert name),"

tone and content do play a part though....

Or, as I do with Mrs. NBP, "my first wife".

[Ralph_Kirk]

Originally Posted by Johnpolybious

Earlier I was talking to a friend who asked me to go out with him and I said I was busy with the wife and after the conversation apparently my wife overheard and said "The wife? Really?" she didn't seem really mad or upset and more kind of joking, but still, it was interesting she brought it up. Would it bother you?

If you had said at work, "Let me check with the boss," would your boss have been annoyed?

Of course, she is your wife and if she is annoyed, she is the one you have to sleep with...not any of us.

[49ersfan27]

Before I buy something expensive I always say "Let me ask the wife first."

She's not offended by it.

But I have seen people be offended by the word female so I wouldn't be surprised if people got mad about this.

[Chowhound]

Originally Posted by MinivanDriver

I think people are way too quick to take offense.



Mind you, had you said, "My old lady," that would be something different.



Also, at a wedding reception, someone actually introduced his spouse as, "My current wife." Things got frosty in a hurry on that one.

Yeah, people definitely get offended too easily now.

Tone is the key, it's how people say things is something to be added to the context of a given comment.

I guess if a woman doesn't like it the old man shouldn't say it.

[Checkered24]

Unless said with a decent helping of snark, I do not see why it should be offensive. To each their own though. I am sure each married couple works out what they feel is, and is not appropriate in terms of labels.

[saltwater_gypsy]

Originally Posted by Johnpolybious

Earlier I was talking to a friend who asked me to go out with him and I said I was busy with the wife and after the conversation apparently my wife overheard and said "The wife? Really?" she didn't seem really mad or upset and more kind of joking, but still, it was interesting she brought it up. Would it bother you?

No. That's silly.