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Sorry? I never said any of these things. If I did, show me where.
Why are people bothered by honesty? How could I have told my story and NOT looked narcissistic?
Real question.
I wanted to be as honest as possible about my experiences so people could offer advice. If some of my experiences sound "positive" why does this bother people? Why?
This is from your very first post
"I try to keep myself up. I do my hair, make up, stay fit. I get a lot of stares, comments by men. I get the sense they are attracted on a physical level but it's not translating into relationships. "
There is a big difference between positive and narcissism. But you see how defensive you have gotten? You have even admitted that you look narcissistic and seem angered by it?
I didn't. I'm asking you: how could I have told the truth of my dating experience without YOU seeing me as narcissistic?
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This is from your very first post
"I try to keep myself up. I do my hair, make up, stay fit. I get a lot of stares, comments by men. I get the sense they are attracted on a physical level but it's not translating into relationships. "
Lots of stares?
Yes. This is the truth of my experience. Again, why are you bothered by this? Should I leave out details?
I didn't. I'm asking you: how could I have told the truth of my dating experience without YOU seeing me as narcissistic?
Yes. This is the truth of my experience. Again, why are you bothered by this? Should I leave out details?
The first issue is that you are claiming it's the "truth" of your dating experience. It really is just your perception of your dating experience. Just like the guy you said was staring at you at the library. You formed a conclusion of what you perceived happened. Unless he actually told you, you do not know the truth.
Secondly, I am not bothered at all. You've had 32 pages of basically supportive posts and you never seemed to lose your composure. Now I come along and make less than 10 posts and you are getting hostile. Perhaps this is how you handle conflicts in a relationship?
Is there some compelling reason why you have to live in the Midwest? You already know you'd have a better selection of compatible men back in metro Boston or a similar high cost of living place where white collar professionals migrate.
My reasons are to save to start my own business. It is more affordable here so I can do that. I also like the men here. I have considered moving because I miss home. But my girlfriends back home haven't told me anything great about the dating scene there.
I would live in Brooklyn in a heartbeat if I was in my 20s again.
Brooklyn would be my top choice too. I have never lived in New York but I have a few friends there who I randomly met in different places. We get along really well. And there are so many different people there that the odds are better, right?
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Brooklyn would be my top choice too. I have never lived in New York but I have a few friends there who I randomly met in different places. We get along really well. And there are so many different people there that the odds are better, right?
I don't know about odds. But there are my type of people there. I suspect yours too.
Like, Worcester and Providence are relatively similar size cities and roughly the same cost to buy. My work is much closer to Worcester for the most part. I commute from Providence. Providence has a much larger population of educated creative people (music, arts, etc), there are more of my people. People I connect with. So, an extra hour or so a day of driving it is.
I don't know about odds. But there are my type of people there. I suspect yours too.
Like, Worcester and Providence are relatively similar size cities and roughly the same cost to buy. My work is much closer to Worcester for the most part. I commute from Providence. Providence has a much larger population of educated creative people (music, arts, etc), there are more of my people. People I connect with. So, an extra hour or so a day of driving it is.
Are you from Mass. too?
I was told that Providence changed. I don't remember it like how you describe but I have not been there since 2005 or something.
I think I could still save money by moving in with a family member. I would like to live alone but I'd like to be in a good relationship more.
I want to give here a good shot first before I make real plans. I've been here for more than a year but it could take longer.
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