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This happened to a friend of mine. We always told him to refuse to sign anything till the DNA test was done. But he was stupid. When he finally broke up and divorced her he had 4 kids to support. The first weekend he had custody he did the DNA tests and found out 3 of the kids were not his. Too late. He had accepted paternity and he will be poorer than dirt while his cheating EX laughs all the way to the bank.
Laws in every state are a bit different. You need to see a lawyer and get expert advice. In most states if you sign the paperwork you are on the hook, even if the kid is not yours. Insist on a DNA/paternity test. Even if you stay together, get the kid tested. If you were to break up in the future you don't want to have to pay for someone else's child. Even if you love her and the kid, you need to protect yourself. If she can't accept that, she can leave you!
Always keep in mind family law will be about protecting and providing for the child. They do not care about you at all! You have to advocate for yourself.
so you think its games? i guess the downside is if its actually my kid and she has to go thru pregnancy alone. Id feel like a scumbag after
Why would she? Tell her you want to go to the next u/s with and and call her on the paternity test bluff. Don't just sit around waiting. Find out if you can get one somewhere cheaper. CALL HER BLUFF.
Why would she? Tell her you want to go to the next u/s with and and call her on the paternity test bluff. Don't just sit around waiting. Find out if you can get one somewhere cheaper. CALL HER BLUFF.
paternity tests can be done now, before delivery. Offer it and see what the response is
well this pic doesnt have her name or birthdate on it. It does have the date she claims to of gone to the doctor on it.
she said she wanted to go to the doctor the next time on her own. but after that i could come.
I just dont see her end game her which is throwing me. She is wanting to hang out. if it was my kid, she would get finances either way after it was born. i brought up the paternity test and she mentioned pre birth the cost was something like 1800 and she was willing to get one. but i almost feel like she was throwing out the price like that to scare me from getting one pre birth.
the wierd thing about this all, she was the one that pushing our relationship along hard. like clearly wanting to get wifed up prior to disapearring.
If she thinks an $1,800 paternity test is expensive she has NO CLUE what parenthood is going to bring as far as "expensive" goes.
Get the damn test, NOW, and don't pay out one penny to her, or put your name on the birth certificate, until you know double damn certain.
"If it's my kid..." Problem is, you don't know whether or not it is at this point in time.
I watch "Paternity Court" quite frequently... don't put either this child, or the two of you, in that situation by not getting the test and being sure. Those are some sad, sad cases on that show. Including guys who paid out support for YEARS only to find out the child wasn't theirs.
it sounds like everyone has the suspiscion that cheated on me, got knocked up, and came back.
honestly, i am kind of leaning the opposite way. If she got knocked up by someone else, the timing for when she was also having unprotected sex with me would have to been so close that not even she could tell who the baby daddy is.
More i think about this its one of two things
1)she monkey branched to another guy and when she found out she was pregnant and it was likely mine, she came back
2) she isnt even pregnant. Her ultrasound doesnt have any medical record information. and she is just playing me to some end
it sounds like everyone has the suspiscion that cheated on me, got knocked up, and came back.
honestly, i am kind of leaning the opposite way. If she got knocked up by someone else, the timing for when she was also having unprotected sex with me
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would have to been so close that not even she could tell who the baby daddy is.
More i think about this its one of two things
1)she monkey branched to another guy and when she found out she was pregnant and it was likely mine, she came back
2) she isnt even pregnant. Her ultrasound doesnt have any medical record information. and she is just playing me to some end
I think it's #2, though now that you tell us you had unprotected sex with her, I'm not so sure. Sure the circumstances that you outline are suspicious, but ...
Care to tell us why you were having unprotected sex with her? Have you learned anything from this little episode?
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1)she monkey branched to another guy and when she found out she was pregnant and it was likely mine, she came back
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