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This is one of the things of "today" that I just don't understand. Do people do this ghosting thing because they are afraid of what they perceive as a confrontation? As if they think that saying, "I'm sorry but I don't think we are a match," is going to result in the other person throwing themselves to the floor weeping, "PLEASE don't GO!" I mean, seriously?
Or is it because people today have lost all sense of caring about the feelings of others and enjoy being cruel and mean? Or are people just oblivious flakes who were brought up in such a way that it never occurs to them to consider others?
Whichever it is, I wish anyone doing the online dating thing good luck.
This is one of the things of "today" that I just don't understand. Do people do this ghosting thing because they are afraid of what they perceive as a confrontation? As if they think that saying, "I'm sorry but I don't think we are a match," is going to result in the other person throwing themselves to the floor weeping, "PLEASE don't GO!" I mean, seriously?
Or is it because people today have lost all sense of caring about the feelings of others and enjoy being cruel and mean? Or are people just oblivious flakes who were brought up in such a way that it never occurs to them to consider others?
Whichever it is, I wish anyone doing the online dating thing good luck.
Could be flakey, could not care, could be anything, but it's not the weeping, it's the potential anger that could ensue when someone doesn't get their way. Many are not gracious and accepting but rather rise to anger, demand explanations and try to fight against or convince the person to change their mind. Ghosting is often self-preservation, IMO, whether it's 'right' or 'wrong'.
It’s similar to me asking that they not come up with insulting names, repeatedly ask why and then argue, look at my profile every day so I see their face first if I check who viewed me, (there’s no way to stop that) call me from a different number if I block theirs... there are any number of reasons people ghost. Past experiences show there are a significant amount of people out there with undiagnosed mental health issues. If everyone gracefully accepted: “sorry, not a match” this would happen less.
I’ve been ghosted, it was puzzling, but I moved on and can’t even remember for certain who that was now. Maybe it was more than once?
ETA: Now that I think about it, I didn’t have a name for it even, just: “I wonder what happened there?” And then decided if they wanted to get in touch, they knew how and I left it at that.
This is one of the things of "today" that I just don't understand. Do people do this ghosting thing because they are afraid of what they perceive as a confrontation? As if they think that saying, "I'm sorry but I don't think we are a match," is going to result in the other person throwing themselves to the floor weeping, "PLEASE don't GO!" I mean, seriously?
Or is it because people today have lost all sense of caring about the feelings of others and enjoy being cruel and mean? Or are people just oblivious flakes who were brought up in such a way that it never occurs to them to consider others?
Whichever it is, I wish anyone doing the online dating thing good luck.
Exactly, this is an equivalent to a little kid who messes up and doesn't tell his parents. He/she is afraid of their reaction.
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