Has the Coronavirus situation affected your Relationship? (dating, movies, boyfriend)
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I had a sort of serious heart to heart with my BF last night. He has decided to self quarantine at home with his parents because he is afraid of getting sick. I sympathize.
However i feel sort of "abandoned" i mean yes he calls me daily and communication i suppose is still a two way street but i would never in a million years would have considered staying away from him if **** hits the fan. I am glad that he is protecting himself though but it sort of made me realize no matter what - I am always going to be alone in this world...The only person you can truly depend on is yourself.
I guess he considers me a high risk because i commute to work into the City so i could potentially get him sick. (he is kind of a hypochondriac) I guess I am just trying to figure if my feelings are over the top
Anyone else going through something similar? For those dating are you still planning to see each other? I expect the married couples should have no change in their current situations
Its a dangerous virus because it has a long incubation period. You can be a carrier but not know it. I think its a good idea for anyone to self-quarantine if it is at all a possibility for them. (For some people its not because of their jobs.) But the more people isolate themselves, the faster the virus will be contained.
Older people and people with suppressed immune systems are at the greatest risk, so while you may not be sick, you may be killing people just by breathing the virus out in public places.
It's a bit unusual to me, but I guess it's a smart choice, especially since you apparently live in the NYC area. What alternative would you want him to pursue? There's not really a halfway option right now.
If he's a hypochondriac you may need to consider whether that will affect your lifestyle choices in the future, whether he will want to opt out of things more often than not. I work with someone like that, and after a while it becomes exhausting and frustrating.
No, but if my new girlfriend wants to stay in for most of the weekend and have lots of sex with me instead of going to a club, music event or restaurant, I'm good with that.
I'm in NYC as well, and given almost everything shutting down, I think it would be affecting most people's relationships unless they're married or live together.
I usually see my bf on Friday nights, however due to all the schools closings and kids after school programs shutting down, my bf has decided to take his kids tonight until Sunday to avoid them going stir crazy, which I totally understand. We do however plan on seeing each other Sunday evening, that is if there's no curfew or something imposed by then. Neither of us are that concerned about contracting the virus, since we are not in a high risk age group and don't see our elderly parents that often (his live in another country). I'm currently working from home and live by myself, he owns a business but hasn't had much traffic since due what's been going on.
Sounds like your boyfriend lives with his parents, so it probably is a good idea for him to self quarantine, I don't know how old his parents are but if they're over 60, they are at high risk, and he can't run the risk of infecting them.
Its a dangerous virus because it has a long incubation period. You can be a carrier but not know it. I think its a good idea for anyone to self-quarantine if it is at all a possibility for them. (For some people its not because of their jobs.) But the more people isolate themselves, the faster the virus will be contained.
Older people and people with suppressed immune systems are at the greatest risk, so while you may not be sick, you may be killing people just by breathing the virus out in public places.
So I don't think he's wrong.
He isn't wrong at all. He actually just called and said he thought about it and decided to take the risk and come over. I guess he considered my feelings of isolation and is willing to still be around. Now i am thinking maybe i should just let him continue to self quarantine. I am not sick and i do take all the precautions but you never know ...
I would miss him greatly but we both will live right?
No, but if my new girlfriend wants to stay in for most of the weekend and have lots of sex with me instead of going to a club, music event or restaurant, I'm good with that.
I'm in NYC as well, and given almost everything shutting down, I think it would be affecting most people's relationships unless they're married or live together.
I usually see my bf on Friday nights, however due to all the schools closings and kids after school programs shutting down, my bf has decided to take his kids tonight until Sunday to avoid them going stir crazy, which I totally understand. We do however plan on seeing each other Sunday evening, that is if there's no curfew or something imposed by then. Neither of us are that concerned about contracting the virus, since we are not in a high risk age group and don't see our elderly parents that often (his live in another country). I'm currently working from home and live by myself, he owns a business but hasn't had much traffic since due what's been going on.
Sounds like your boyfriend lives with his parents, so it probably is a good idea for him to self quarantine, I don't know how old his parents are but if they're over 60, they are at high risk, and he can't run the risk of infecting them.
Yeah this is true. They are in that bracket. Okay i will call him back to cancel.
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Originally Posted by brooklynpad
I had a sort of serious heart to heart with my BF last night. He has decided to self quarantine at home with his parents because he is afraid of getting sick. I sympathize.
However i feel sort of "abandoned" i mean yes he calls me daily and communication i suppose is still a two way street but i would never in a million years would have considered staying away from him if **** hits the fan. I am glad that he is protecting himself though but it sort of made me realize no matter what - I am always going to be alone in this world...The only person you can truly depend on is yourself.
I guess he considers me a high risk because i commute to work into the City so i could potentially get him sick. (he is kind of a hypochondriac) I guess I am just trying to figure if my feelings are over the top
Anyone else going through something similar? For those dating are you still planning to see each other? I expect the married couples should have no change in their current situations
The problem might be that he lives with his parents.........
If neither of you are at high risk for complications tho.......because of age or underlying health conditions..........then I don't see why you couldn't just be together & watch movies or cook a meal together & have serious cuddle time....& isolate yourselves together away from his parents.....at your place??? If he would rather isolate himself with his parents than you....something may be wrong with the relationship IMO that has nothing to do with the coronavirus...
The problem might be that he lives with his parents.........
If neither of you are at high risk for complications tho.......because of age or underlying health conditions..........then I don't see why you couldn't just be together & watch movies or cook a meal together & have serious cuddle time....& isolate yourselves together away from his parents.....at your place??? If he would rather isolate himself with his parents than you....something may be wrong with the relationship IMO that has nothing to do with the coronavirus...
It has an incubation period of 24 days or something long like that though. So he would have to be committed to staying at her place long past the incubation period, or else he could be carrying it and carry it back home to his parents. It seems to make more sense to stay where he lives. And if his parents fall ill, he can take care of them.
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