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Well, I met this guy one night at a local pub and thought he was just the cutest thing ever. We chatted and shared a couple of kisses, but I neglected to offer my number or get his. I was bummed because I really had a spark with this guy (he's Argentine, in phenominal shape, and a great kisser too).
Anway, I was so happy last night to finally, after 6 weeks, run into him again. We chatted and flirted and he invited me to his house. Yeah, I did it, I slept with him.
I KNEW when he invited me to his house that that was all he wanted. Don't get me wrong, it was FANTASTIC, but not what I want in my life right now. I feel disappointed, cheap, and saddened. I'm not out "looking" for love, but I'm certainly open to the idea, but every guy I meet just wants a "wham, bam, thank you sam" and that's it Is dating and getting to know someone part of a bygone era?
You feel ashamed because a part of you betrayed yourself in denying what you truly want for something that makes you feel emptier inside.
Dating and getting to know someone isn't a part of a bygone era (maybe in the world of bars/pubs it is- not always) but sometimes the environment, the people we surround ourselves with makes a difference.
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Well, I met this guy one night at a local pub and thought he was just the cutest thing ever. We chatted and shared a couple of kisses, but I neglected to offer my number or get his. I was bummed because I really had a spark with this guy (he's Argentine, in phenominal shape, and a great kisser too).
Anway, I was so happy last night to finally, after 6 weeks, run into him again. We chatted and flirted and he invited me to his house. Yeah, I did it, I slept with him.
I KNEW when he invited me to his house that that was all he wanted. Don't get me wrong, it was FANTASTIC, but not what I want in my life right now. I feel disappointed, cheap, and saddened. I'm not out "looking" for love, but I'm certainly open to the idea, but every guy I meet just wants a "wham, bam, thank you sam" and that's it Is dating and getting to know someone part of a bygone era?
It is when you make those decisions. I understand you were in the moment, but you seriously can't question society's changing morals when you're contributing to the change.
With that said, a wise family friend once told me, if you want sex, great, have sex...but own it in the morning, or make a change. I'm not saying this is a habit of yours you need to fix, but you should determine if you're going to stick to your guns in not involve in hasty, ONS sort of sex, or if you want to live in the moment with no regrets.
Location: Somewhere in a Field of Hopes and Dreams
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C'mon now girly. You met him once, you thought he was hot and you wanted him. You finally got what you wanted. Relish in the fact that you had that totally hot guy! Seriously! Don't beat yourself up about it. You went willingly knowing this wasn't going to turn serious.
Now, if like one of our other posters you were overly bold, did the deed and then expected something serious, I might think differently of you but you know what? Guys do this all the time and NO one says Boo about it.
Maybe he's thinking hot things about you now.... ever thought about it that way??
I hate this sentiment. Who cares what men are doing!? You gonna cut yourself with razors if you here all men do that too?
If you want to have sex and be a serial dater, then fine, but do that for YOU. Not because men do it...
I KNEW when he invited me to his house that that was all he wanted. Don't get me wrong, it was FANTASTIC, but not what I want in my life right now. I feel disappointed, cheap, and saddened. I'm not out "looking" for love, but I'm certainly open to the idea, but every guy I meet just wants a "wham, bam, thank you sam" and that's it Is dating and getting to know someone part of a bygone era?
Well it sure must have been what you "wanted in my life" right now!!!!or it wouldn't have happened.
Maybe he's just as disappointed as you are...maybe he's also looking for someone to get to know better.
There can't be no "wham bam, thankyou sam, without two willing partners. If you want more, you know you can have it...you gotta shelve that lust first though, or it could get in the way.
Well, I met this guy one night at a local pub and thought he was just the cutest thing ever. We chatted and shared a couple of kisses, but I neglected to offer my number or get his. I was bummed because I really had a spark with this guy (he's Argentine, in phenominal shape, and a great kisser too).
Anway, I was so happy last night to finally, after 6 weeks, run into him again. We chatted and flirted and he invited me to his house. Yeah, I did it, I slept with him.
I KNEW when he invited me to his house that that was all he wanted. Don't get me wrong, it was FANTASTIC, but not what I want in my life right now. I feel disappointed, cheap, and saddened. I'm not out "looking" for love, but I'm certainly open to the idea, but every guy I meet just wants a "wham, bam, thank you sam" and that's it Is dating and getting to know someone part of a bygone era?
The reason they get a wham bam thank you ma'am is because you either portray or give them the exact signals that you are willing and able to provide the acrobatics for the night. If it wasn't what you wanted then why did you do it? If he really liked you he would of found you or asked you out on a real date
I think you need to sit down with yourself and figure out what you want out of life and relationships.
Just remember nobody can make you do anything you don't want to. If the guy gets mad because you won't sleep with him 1 hr after you meet that's his problem.
Well, I met this guy one night at a local pub and thought he was just the cutest thing ever. We chatted and shared a couple of kisses, but I neglected to offer my number or get his. I was bummed because I really had a spark with this guy (he's Argentine, in phenominal shape, and a great kisser too).
Anway, I was so happy last night to finally, after 6 weeks, run into him again. We chatted and flirted and he invited me to his house. Yeah, I did it, I slept with him.
I KNEW when he invited me to his house that that was all he wanted. Don't get me wrong, it was FANTASTIC, but not what I want in my life right now. I feel disappointed, cheap, and saddened. I'm not out "looking" for love, but I'm certainly open to the idea, but every guy I meet just wants a "wham, bam, thank you sam" and that's it Is dating and getting to know someone part of a bygone era?
There are men you fool around with and ones you keep. Your descriptions of the man fits the fool around with bill. You slept together and appeared to enjoy it. I am not sure why you feel cheap? It seemed to be a multally benefitical situation. If you really like a man and want a relationship you can't just jump in to bed with him (even Patty would tell you that ). You have to make him work for it. If he is not really interested in pursuing you .. then you probably will never maintain his interest in a relationship anyways. You live and you learn.
There are men you fool around with and ones you keep. Your descriptions of the man fits the fool around with bill. You slept together and appeared to enjoy it. I am not sure why you feel cheap? It seemed to be a multally benefitical situation. If you really like a man and want a relationship you can't just jump in to bed with him (even Patty would tell you that ). You have to make him work for it. If he is not really interested in pursuing you .. then you probably will never maintain his interest in a relationship anyways. You live and you learn.
There are men you fool around with and ones you keep. Your descriptions of the man fits the fool around with bill. You slept together and appeared to enjoy it. I am not sure why you feel cheap? It seemed to be a multally benefitical situation. If you really like a man and want a relationship you can't just jump in to bed with him (even Patty would tell you that ). You have to make him work for it. If he is not really interested in pursuing you .. then you probably will never maintain his interest in a relationship anyways. You live and you learn.
so you play games with guys and withhold sex? Or you could just pick better guys that are looking for the same thing and wont leave after sex
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Is dating and getting to know someone part of a bygone era?
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