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Yeah, but isn't that what basically marriage vows are?? Be faithful and stay married??
I do agree it does sound a little bit co-dependent.
Yes, but I'm always suspicious of such pompous declarations. I've said this before - I'd be very cautious of anybody starting to describe himself as being honest or tooting his own horn about just any virtue of this nature. I'm yet to see a truly honest person feeling the need to do that. It just goes without saying... it's encompassed in his reality... it's not something to be broadcasted.
If You Got To Ask, You Ain't Got It!
I can't imagine ever having to ask a man IF he loves me or ask him to promise me fidelity. To me it comes with the territory and if it doesn't, then the man goes out of the territory - it's as simple as that!
Personally I don't think I could live with myself or even look at myself in the mirror each morning if I was a cheater. So I know deep down in my heart I would never consider it. I think if most people did not put themselves in a tempting situation (getting overly drunk at a bar or hanging around questionable folks) to begin with, there wouldn't be so many cheaters out there. Every person is different thats for sure...but I know who I am and I know what morals I live by...so it is easy for me to not be a cheater. Or ever consider it.
Depends on the situation, I probably wouldn't but it's not out of the question. I mean I'd rather just break-up with the girl than cheat on her rather by sneaking around. However, if I was in a situation where the urgency was high (a girl with a great personality and physical apperance) and it being despite the fact I was or am in a good relationship, I wouldn't completely rule cheating out.
I have been cheated on and it sucks. I think my wife saved my life, I was drinking alot and didnt care about much, and she has set me staright. I couldnt think i would find anyone better than her. I would never cheat
Personally I don't think I could live with myself or even look at myself in the mirror each morning if I was a cheater. So I know deep down in my heart I would never consider it. I think if most people did not put themselves in a tempting situation (getting overly drunk at a bar or hanging around questionable folks) to begin with, there wouldn't be so many cheaters out there. Every person is different thats for sure...but I know who I am and I know what morals I live by...so it is easy for me to not be a cheater. Or ever consider it.
I know I couldn't live with myself.
As said before, yes, everybody's capable. Just because one is capable doesn't mean they can't say they never will. I'm physically capable of robbing a bank, painting my house purple, playing with a rattlesnake, or jump off a bridge. However, I can say with absolute certainty that I will never do any of these things - unless of course, someone were to hold a gun to my head. And if someone were to hold a gun to my head to force me to cheat, then it wouldn't be cheating. It would be rape.
Then there's the argument that people who cheat never thought they would cheat, either. That may be true. However, just because cheaters never thought they would cheat does not mean that all people who think they won't cheat are cheaters.
I do have free will, and am capable of exercising restraint. If I know something is wrong and against my beliefs, I won't do it. Simple as that. It doesn't make me pious, and I don't think I'm better than anyone else. I simply know myself.
Yes, but I'm always suspicious of such pompous declarations. I've said this before - I'd be very cautious of anybody starting to describe himself as being honest or tooting his own horn about just any virtue of this nature. I'm yet to see a truly honest person feeling the need to do that. It just goes without saying... it's encompassed in his reality... it's not something to be broadcasted.
If You Got To Ask, You Ain't Got It!
I can't imagine ever having to ask a man IF he loves me or ask him to promise me fidelity. To me it comes with the territory and if it doesn't, then the man goes out of the territory - it's as simple as that!
Exactly. It's kind of like someone said. When somebody starts talking about their integrity at the dinner table, that's when I start counting the silverware.
Someone mentioned honesty in this post somewhere so here goes.
I don't even think about it, I've never met a women I liked more than my wife. I'm 50 so my choices would be some young thing that talked so much my heart would feel like it was beating backwards and I couldn't relate to on the level I would want or someone my age that has been screwed over so many times that if there was any beauty left I wouldn't be able to see it. And then theres the question of why would I want to...no no no, I'll just set back here and read and add my 2 cents thank you very much. You know whats exciting to me, a new hobby, knowing my kids are going to College and hearing about exciting new things they have done, vacations, learning, entertaining.
All that and it would kill her so while I'm laughing as I'm typing go ahead people....make me Jealous!
Hmm, as heart-warming as it sounds, I'm not sure how I feel about such promises... For some reason they smell of insecurity and co-dependency to me. It's as if you give each other cart blanche to do anything else displeasing, but...
Sierra - this post sounds so cynical!! I know everyone is a product of their experiences, but I am living in hope that I don't come back on here in a few years agreeing with this because I've been screwed over.
Right now, what he said sounds just fine to me!
I think this whole conversation has gotton a little out of hand. It's up there with the 'could you commit murder'.
Most people of course say no... but now, it's Ossama Binladen, or the guy who just murdered your family or whatever.
So OK, in SOME circumstances, most people are capable of anything. But in ususal circumstances, there are not many people who would think themselves capable of murder. Does that make them smug and self congratulatory as well?
I don't get why it's so hard to take someone's word for it that they would not cheat. Ach, what do I know - I can only hope that I get to continue in my innocent assumption that my wedding vows meant something to both of us!
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