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Old 10-03-2008, 12:51 PM
 
Location: back in Boston
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This may be a stupid question,but I'm a guy,so what do you expect?

Ok,so I was reading an article about dating,and one of the statements from women,on the subject,was this:

"Guys,if you ask us out and we say,"no",don't just dont just shrug, say,"okay",and walk away. We want you to be a little disappointed."

Is this true?
If you're not intrested in dating us,why would you be hoping for disappointment? To show that we care?
If we didn't care,we wouldn't have asked to begin with.
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Old 10-03-2008, 12:58 PM
 
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first off, articles about dating are usually just made up by the staff at a magazine--i mean, they have to fill the pages with something!
i dont think women want men to be dissapointed. i think women would probably like it better if when they said no, the men would try to ask them out again. after 2 no's though--no should be no and that is it. be persistent, but dont stalk and be creepy
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Old 10-03-2008, 01:09 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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Yeah, I think there is something to women wanting to be liked even by the men they don't care for.
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Old 10-03-2008, 01:13 PM
 
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lol they want men to be disappointed? Uh, I'd call that conceited and selfish.
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Old 10-03-2008, 01:13 PM
 
Location: Columbia Maryland
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So "No" means maybe? Or try again?
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Old 10-03-2008, 01:14 PM
 
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No way, they want you to feel bad. It makes the rejector feel better.

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So "No" means maybe? Or try again?
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Old 10-03-2008, 01:16 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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So "No" means maybe? Or try again?
I didn't mean it in reference to dates. It's just vanity, I guess.
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Old 10-03-2008, 01:27 PM
 
Location: Austin
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This may be a stupid question,but I'm a guy,so what do you expect?

Ok,so I was reading an article about dating,and one of the statements from women,on the subject,was this:

"Guys,if you ask us out and we say,"no",don't just dont just shrug, say,"okay",and walk away. We want you to be a little disappointed."

Is this true?
If you're not intrested in dating us,why would you be hoping for disappointment? To show that we care?
If we didn't care,we wouldn't have asked to begin with.
What crap paper or magazine did you read that in? The person who wrote that sounds pretty immature.
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Old 10-03-2008, 01:39 PM
 
Location: Whoville....
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Yeah, I think there is something to women wanting to be liked even by the men they don't care for.
There's something about PEOPLE wanting to be liked even by people they don't care to date.
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Old 10-03-2008, 01:44 PM
 
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Whoever wrote that is being selfish, but we are all a bit selfish.

Many women get upset if the guy they dump isn't bothered by it.

If you are bothered by getting dumped, the girl get's a sort of validation through that. She's then done with you, you have no chance with her.

If you shrug it off and go on your way, she takes offense to that but her desire for you grows a little bit. She may or may not try to get you back.

I'm sure same goes for men as well. It's human psychology. We desire most what we can't have. We are a messed up lot.
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