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Just found out my bf has been dating someone else. We are no longer together. I thought our relationship was great. Why do men look elsewhere when they have something so good at home?
I don't think it's just men.....women cheat too but anyway ~ Ever heard of "new cow syndrom"? With some men I like to think of it as a chemical imbalance.....too much testosterone not enough heart. These men ultimatly lead sad lives as they find out over and over again the grass isn't greener on the otherside.
Was he charming and fun to be around? Or was he serious about college and work? Who are his role models? What is his upbringing like? Does he take care of likfe? Clean the dishes? Or just bails to do what's fun without taking care of responsibilities.
Sometimes it will depend on the stage of life they are in. This cheating boyfriend of yours now, if young, might turn into a loyal husband and father 15 years from now...
You are making assumptions that all men might cheat, and although a lot do, everyone's circumstances are different.
Just found out my bf has been dating someone else. We are no longer together. I thought our relationship was great. Why do men look elsewhere when they have something so good at home?
There's no easy answer to this question and it won't be the same for every guy, or woman for that matter. I was having a discussion about the economic mess America is in now and how banks got away with so much. The reason they abused the financial system is because there were no safeguards in place to keep them from doing so. People are the same way. They'll try to get away with whatever they can. Don't take that to mean you're at fault or that you somehow encouraged it. When I say people get away with what they can get away with, I mean in the eyes of society at large. I think our culture in general has a very dismissive attitude when it comes to infidelity. We all call the man who cheats a pig or the woman who cheats a ****, but in the same breath, we all downplay it saying, "Oh well, he/she isn't the first." When bad behavior becomes so common that it no longer shocks our sensibilities, that's when you know we're in trouble. In your specific case, I would take a look at who else he associates with. What are his friends like and what kind of relationships do they have? What kind of upbringing did your boyfriend have? Most people know right from wrong. When they do something they know is wrong, you have to ask why they do it anyway. But no matter what, do not look at this as a reflection on you. I know that's hard to do right now, but you need to tell yourself you're better off without this person. A woman I knew used to tell me, "Don't cry over someone who won't do the same over you."
Just found out my bf has been dating someone else. We are no longer together. I thought our relationship was great. Why do men look elsewhere when they have something so good at home?
Not to sound mean or anything but how do you know that he had something so good at home? Im just curious. He cheated (i.e., had sex with another woman) so do you think you were his everything when it came to sex? Did you do what he liked? What he asked? When he wanted to do it? How he wanted to do it? Were you into it? Did you seem bored? Were you passionate or just going through the motions?
Im a guy, and from my experience, guys do not cheat if its "so good at home". They just dont. They usually cheat because it isnt so good at home.
Just found out my bf has been dating someone else. We are no longer together. I thought our relationship was great. Why do men look elsewhere when they have something so good at home?
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