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Old 10-25-2008, 07:47 PM
 
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I`m sorry your heart is broken.
At least you can pin point your weakness, and that is by talking to him.
I wouldn`t let it happen. Continue down the path of healing, and moving on. I wouldn`t let him bring you down anymore. This is what he wants.
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Old 10-25-2008, 07:48 PM
 
Location: South Carolina
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Hang up on him as if he's a telemarketer.
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Old 10-25-2008, 07:53 PM
 
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I think you've done really well, lovehurts, by avoiding him for the past few months. That takes so much strength. If I were you, I don't think I would allow him back into my life. I don't think I'd allow myself to speak to him until I feel that I'm completely healed and I don't have any romantic feelings at all any longer. Otherwise, I think there's too much of a risk of going back to square one. That's just my take on it.
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Old 10-25-2008, 07:53 PM
 
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That isn't kind.

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Hang up on him as if he's a telemarketer.
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Old 10-25-2008, 07:59 PM
 
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That isn't kind.
Very true!!! Change your phone number.
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Old 10-25-2008, 08:01 PM
 
Location: Oxford, OH
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If this was someone you were really interested in then why not give it another try? Give men the chance to be stupid once in awhile. I sure would not have sex with him unless the relationship starts again and he shows sincere interest in you. I would sure want to understand why the relationship ended and why now does he want to talk. If he said he missed you while you were apart, or there were questions in his mind about the relationship, then you might need to listen.
No one is perfect and understanding relationships and feelings is really hard.
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Old 10-25-2008, 08:01 PM
 
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He isn't a serial killer. Just tell him not to call anymore. Stop being so paranoid!!!!

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Very true!!! Change your phone number.
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Old 10-25-2008, 08:15 PM
 
Location: Scottsdale, Az
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I did this with my first "love", I'd start feeling better then run into him or he'd call. After a few months I realized that every time this happened we'd end up in bed then he'd be fine for a week or so and it would suck all over again. The first time I said no to him when I ran into him (why couldn't have been over the phone??) I cried after. It got easier every time I said no to him after that, I started dating again and I was saying "nope, I have a b/f" all sassy when he called. I actually found it empowering after the first 3 or 4 really painful times. I think I kept focusing on the great things about him at first, but when I kept the bad times in mind it was pretty easy to blow him off!
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Old 10-25-2008, 09:54 PM
 
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If this was someone you were really interested in then why not give it another try? Give men the chance to be stupid once in awhile. I sure would not have sex with him unless the relationship starts again and he shows sincere interest in you. I would sure want to understand why the relationship ended and why now does he want to talk. If he said he missed you while you were apart, or there were questions in his mind about the relationship, then you might need to listen.
No one is perfect and understanding relationships and feelings is really hard.
I agree with Driftwood, how was your relationship with this guy? Were you dating long? Was it getting serious? I believe in giving people a second chance, after all no one is perfect. If you feel deep down in your heart that he is a guy that is worth giving a chance. Go for it! Like driftwood said don't give him any sex. He has had time to think about you and what you both had. Who knows maybe he sincerely is ready to give it a shot... I don't know the details and how old you both are.

It seems like you were in love with him and now the choice is yours do you meet to hear him out , or do you move on. Ask yourself would you like some sort of closure. I believe in destiny what is meant to be will be.. Go with your gut it never lets you down.
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Old 10-25-2008, 10:02 PM
 
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You are not the same two people anymore. You have both gone on. Leave your past selves in the past. NO MORE HURT - if you think that way.
Been there....done that. I weep for you ;but so admire your strength.
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