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That's what I did last week when he wrote. I didn't write back and today at work I said I was "busy" all last weekend, running a 5K and volunteering at the marathon. I don't have excuses for this weekend other than I've been out the last two weekends and am really looking forward to having this weekend to myself.
I was actually surprised when he wrote again tonite.
Can I just keep coming up with excuses and hope he takes the hint? I don't want to make the guy feel bad, he's nice enough but just not my type, even for friendship. We have zero in common except for both being new in town.
As I said in my other post, men do not understand this. You need to be direct with them!
OK, well I'll talk to him tomorrow and let him know my boundaries.
Boundaries is the key word. I'd spell it out clear as the blue sky, Sorry I don't get involved with co workers or other professionals in my industry(cuts him out in case he changes to a different company), I don't involve my business relationships with my personal relationships.
I dated gals from work at my old job for years. Not my preference as everyone knows your business. One of my lady friends has a saying "don't get your sex where you get your checks".
Perhaps you should tell him that it is your policy not to date coworkers...that is professional and polite at the same time!
I think this is excellent advice. If you keep making excuses in a sense he may think you are interested. So I'd just be honest and upfront and tell him thank you but no thank you..
I agree with honesty being the best policy. If you pull the "I don't date co-workers" card, then what if he quits or gets fired? Then what excuse can you use? The best way to handle it is to just say that you are flattered but not interested.
its ok to hang out with your co workers. but i guess it depends on the environment. is it cut throat, where you are an idiot to trust your colleagues? or is it a laid back place where you dont have to worry about being stabbed in the back.
if its the latter, go ahead and hang out. why not?
but be clear that you dont "date" co workers. it wont be romantical.
Does he mean "blow him off" in a friends with benefits kind of way?
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Originally Posted by Twinkle Toes
Now, when you say "blow him off", what exactly do you mean???
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