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I had an affair with a married woman when I was in my early 20's. I wasn't in a relationship at the time we started, she was the married person. Regardless, that is something I STRONGLY regret and would never do again.
I have never cheated while I was in a relationship, though.
It's funny (ironic). Some people think that people can't change. But, right up until the point someone cheats, they were faithful, and then changed. So, it kinda two-edged. They changed from faithful to a cheater. Doesn't mean they can't change back. The same is true and is what is discussed more, though. People can cheat and go faithful, but they could resort to cheating again. Most people never look at it from the former example, just the latter.
For that reason, I think people make errors and can change. Once is a mistake, twice is a coincidence, three times is a pattern.
I don't like to generalize people and lump everyone into a category.
I think if someone makes a mistake and truly doesn't want to repeat that kind of mistake, they'll work on making themselves a better person. But, IMO, they want to have to change themselves. No one can come along and change them...
That gets kinda tricky in the wording. If a guy cheated and saw the damage it did and if he wanted to never be the reason for anyone hurting like that again, he'll work on changing himself. And perhaps one day he'll meet a girl that makes him want to be a better man for her... but it's still up to him to want that change. She can want it all she wants.... but the work on change is still his to do.
Cheating shows a lack of character at the time because the person chose to violate their relationship instead of dealing with it first.
If a person addresses their lack of character and becomes a better person, then they won't cheat again.
Generally though, it is very hard to change, and cheaters tend to repeat the same actions when they are faced with adversity in a relationship (and all relationships will have adversity).
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