Is the new york city dating/marriage scene bad due to the gender imblance? (girlfriends, girls)

[Rudbeckia]

see you just became a member with that post

[jax78]

Originally Posted by Riv

I've never seen it so bad in NY as it is these days.

Maybe there might be more single women than men in NY but women are so picky in this town that they've got most of us plainer men ready to accept anyone just as long as she's a woman.

Are women really happier this way? Hint to NY ladies: There's plenty of us lonely guys around, be much less selective on looks and you'll get a good man.

I'm not picky, and looks aren't the most important thing, but you need to have an attraction.

I'm back in the single world pretty recently, and whether there are more men or women, dating is still fun,exciting, and difficult!!! And desperation doesn't help. I think you need to be happy with yourself and be able to be on your own without needing someone else..that will help attract others. Ya know what I'm saying?

Best of luck to you though, and sorry to hear you are lonely..

[I<3NYC]

To me it seems that in most urban areas, women outnumber men. I think there was even an article that I was reading one time about it. But New York City is one of the higher imbalances, especially with over 8 million people there!

[NJ Chutzpah]

^^^

Women have to come to urban centers in order to prove themselves in a man's world

Men can stay out in the rural areas doing labor that women cannot do

And since modern society likes to groom females into thinking they are equal to males, they have no choice but to flock to cities

Men on the other hand do not have that kind of push/pull force acting on them, so more of them will stay away

[Rudbeckia]

Originally Posted by NJ Chutzpah

^^^

Women have to come to urban centers in order to prove themselves in a man's world

Men can stay out in the rural areas doing labor that women cannot do

And since modern society likes to groom females into thinking they are equal to males, they have no choice but to flock to cities

Men on the other hand do not have that kind of push/pull force acting on them, so more of them will stay away

Women do not have to come to a city to prove anything.......They come to the city for the same reasons men do.

and what does "thinking they are equal" mean, we are equal!

[Riv]

Originally Posted by jax78

I'm not picky, and looks aren't the most important thing, but you need to have an attraction.

I'm back in the single world pretty recently, and whether there are more men or women, dating is still fun,exciting, and difficult!!! And desperation doesn't help. I think you need to be happy with yourself and be able to be on your own without needing someone else..that will help attract others. Ya know what I'm saying?

Best of luck to you though, and sorry to hear you are lonely..

Then be attracted to plain looking men and you will easily find the good man to marry that you want.

Don't be afraid of a person who is desperate, desperation is like hunger; its a temporary thing easily cured.

I'd love to marry a plain looking, desperate woman and I follow my own advice but to answer the question posed by the OP, women in NY are so picky that it has made us plain men so desperate thus just about any woman is highly valued these days and thus many of us are alone.

Just my two cents on how a woman can find a good man.

[Rudbeckia]

Let me rephrase last post, our brains are equal and thats why women come to the city, usually to work

[TunaBoy]

Thats a good statistic. Anyway, standards drop considerably with age. People settle. In fact i think the majority of marriages are a result of settling, the others get divorced. Just find someone you care about and are compatible with. People overcomplicate things.

[jax78]

Originally Posted by Riv

Then be attracted to plain looking men and you will easily find the good man to marry that you want.

Don't be afraid of a person who is desperate, desperation is like hunger; its a temporary thing easily cured.

Just my two cents on how a woman can find a good man.

I can't control who I am attracted to!!! I am not unrealistic, and for example, I don't say I will only date men who are 6 ft and up. But you can't force attraction/chemistry with another person, so you need that spark!! I can't make myself attracted to anyone. Of course, someone's personality can also make me more attracted to them.

I have had no problem finding a good man, and I'm not worried. Some women might be picky, or have unrealistic expectations, but that is not a problem with me. I was just commenting that you need some sort of attraction and YOU CAN'T FORCE THAT!!!! Who I am attracted to will be different than another woman...

My two cents are that desperation is not an appealing trait.

[jax78]

Originally Posted by TunaBoy

Thats a good statistic. Anyway, standards drop considerably with age. People settle. In fact i think the majority of marriages are a result of settling, the others get divorced. Just find someone you care about and are compatible with. People overcomplicate things.

Gave you rep for that. Good point and so true. Too many people do settle out of fear. This is why I recently got of a relationship. Part of me felt like I was settling.