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Well,
I didnt want to post on here but I have nobody to talk to.
I have been with my wife for 20 years. We have 2 kids. We were seperated for 6 months about 10 years ago. She had depression after our second child. She started lying and not being nice at all. I found here communicating with someone on the internet. She then all of a sudden, said she didnt love me and didnt want to be married to me anymore. It killed me. I knew she was talking to this guy, but there was never any relationship, so I thought. She had to go away for the weekend, she said, because her doctor said it was me that was causing her depression. She finally moved out and got her a place on her on. She gave me custody of the kids. After about 6 months she wanted to come back. I said I would agree if it was true and because she wanted to be with me. She said yes and here we are. Throughout the last 10 years I have asked her about that time frame, she said there was never anyon else. I just found out last week there was infact someone. During the seperation she was seeing the internet guy. I continue to find out she was meeting him and having sex a couple months before we even thought about seperating. I understand everything, and Im not about it. She asked if I had ever done it outside the marriage, and I honestly told der no. Im no saint but I really have not. She hates talking to me about anything. I told her I was having some rough feelings and she said she undersstands and will be there for me. I am going through hell inside me head. We keep arguing about her feelings. I really need to know if she really loves me. She says so many different answers, depending on her mood. She says she loves me but sometimes she doesnt like to be around me. I know I want to talk to much, but I am going crazy about it and I have nobody else to talk to. I love her with all my heart. I am showing her alot of attention and getting none in return. Her advice is just go foward and deal with each day. We have always had a difference in sex drives. When we do it, its fantastic just not that often. I have actually went months without it, and thats when things are good. It just seems she doesnt care about my feelings. I think she should be showing me if she loves me and If im important in her life. But it seems I am the only one to care, and she never mentions it. What do I do?
Yes move on.. You should leave her .. She likes to play games and she is not faithful at all , and does not care about her family and your feelings. I am wondering after all the information you mentioned in your post ,,you still love her!! What kind of love is it??
Your first mistake was letting her back into your life the first time. Now you have to end this train wreck of a relationship. The only block to this would be the children and custody, but she has seemed to be willing to give you custody. If I were you, I would RUN to the courthouse and start divorce proceedings. She ain't worth it bro.
What can i say? I love her more today than I did the we got married. She has openly told me I should be happy. She said for me to find sex on the side and come home happy instead of being unhappy. She said she loves me and wants to spend the rest of her life with me and nobody else
She hates talking to me about anything.
What does this mean? She hates talking about the relationship, or everything? Do you communicate at all? If not, how can you love her so much? Is it love, or just having someone familiar in your life?
I am showing her alot of attention and getting none in return.
Are you smothering her? This might be why she "sometimes doesn't want to be around you."
If you want to stay in the marriage, you might want to get counseling. Has it always been this way or did something recently happen to bring it up in your head?
What can i say? I love her more today than I did the we got married. She has openly told me I should be happy. She said for me to find sex on the side and come home happy instead of being unhappy. She said she loves me and wants to spend the rest of her life with me and nobody else
Sounds to me like two of you need some SERIOUS counseling - both as individuals, and as a couple.
I'm also afraid that, because marital trust has been broken in such a flagrant way, you're going to have an awfully rough go of it.
To the OP, why is it that you love her? I mean this woman does not seem to care about you...why is it that you want to stay in the relationship? It doesn't seem like you're being treated right or respected, and you should be.
More than likely I will deal with this the same way I have to deal with everything. Myself, and keep it inside until I can find out what to do. Im sure I will have a rough go at it. The attention I give her is mostly like back rubs and foot rubs befroe we go to sleep. I am trying my best not to mention anything to her about this at all
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