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Is he gay? My fiance I have dated for 5 years has given me some concern he may be gay. He watched broke back mountain with out complaing. He complemented to me another mans hand who I work with that I thought could be gay he says after they shook hands once we got home" he has femine hands, like a women soft"!!!!!??? He told me as a child his father accused him of being Gay because he never chased women. Also he has no male friends that he hangs out with at all? Talks to 2 but there out of state he was in the army with them. He told me one of his old good freinds were gay but didnt no that back then. I never had a feeling any man I dated was gay untill I met him. He cooks for me everynight and does laundry to. I feel I am more masculine than him and this is just a turn off what DO YOU THINK I NEED HELP PLEASE!!! HONEST ANSWERS ONLY NO JOKES PLEASE
i will tell you what i would do---break up with him. i know you have been with him a long time--but dont waste any more time. if you have this feeling inside you that he IS gay, then trust yourself and move on. he may just not be ready to come out yet, but you dont want to go any furthur with him--like marriage or children and THEN find out that he was homosexual all along, but just wasnt being honest with you or himself.
it is hard sometimes i think for people to just be honest with themselves---with many things. i am sure he doesnt mean to hurt anyone.
Is he gay? My fiance I have dated for 5 years has given me some concern he may be gay. He watched broke back mountain with out complaing. He complemented to me another mans hand who I work with that I thought could be gay he says after they shook hands once we got home" he has femine hands, like a women soft"!!!!!??? He told me as a child his father accused him of being Gay because he never chased women. Also he has no male friends that he hangs out with at all? Talks to 2 but there out of state he was in the army with them. He told me one of his old good freinds were gay but didnt no that back then. I never had a feeling any man I dated was gay untill I met him. He cooks for me everynight and does laundry to. I feel I am more masculine than him and this is just a turn off what DO YOU THINK I NEED HELP PLEASE!!! HONEST ANSWERS ONLY NO JOKES PLEASE
First off I have soft hands, without calluses, the wife loves them and I never had any complaints on them.
Secondly I love doing laundry, dishes, cleaning the apartment and many other chores and I am as masculine as any other man.
Thirdly I never chased women. I would talk to them and would get lucky but I have never chased after them.
Finally I love doing laundry, dishes, cooking and doing many other chores in my house and I am not gay.
Could it be that maybe that's just the way he is? So stop complaining.
Although I dont think doing laundry or helping with the housework means a guy is gay, it is alot of times wise to go with your gut feelings. But what is a guy to do? Women rant and rave if the men dont help around the house. And here we have a girl thinking her man is gay because he does help. When you 2 are walking down the street do you notice him checking out dudes butts? Does he have rug burns on his knees? But since you have been with him for 5 years you should know better than anyone what you should do. But seems to me you would have had some idea of his true sexuality long before now. Good luck!
There is a reason or at least an instinct that you feel this way.
Just because he does dishes and laundry and doesn't have callouses on his hands doesn't mean he is gay. My son-in-law helps my daughter with house work and he definitely ain't gay.
I worked with a guy who had many callouses and wouldn't touch washing dishes or laundry and could whip just about anybodys butt.
I noticed he never joined in on any conversations with the rest of us talking about our wives and kids and he never wanted to hang with the guys for a beer after work. Guess we weren't his type. But he did have a female room mate.
I found out later he was gay.
I have a tendency to trust my instincts that causes concern over a period of time. There is usually a reason for feeling that way.
He may or may not be gay.
I wouldn't commit to anything untill you are sure you are not being used as a decoy or camoflauge to hide his true feelings.
Is he gay? My fiance I have dated for 5 years has given me some concern he may be gay. He watched broke back mountain with out complaing. He complemented to me another mans hand who I work with that I thought could be gay he says after they shook hands once we got home" he has femine hands, like a women soft"!!!!!??? He told me as a child his father accused him of being Gay because he never chased women. Also he has no male friends that he hangs out with at all? Talks to 2 but there out of state he was in the army with them. He told me one of his old good freinds were gay but didnt no that back then. I never had a feeling any man I dated was gay untill I met him. He cooks for me everynight and does laundry to. I feel I am more masculine than him and this is just a turn off what DO YOU THINK I NEED HELP PLEASE!!! HONEST ANSWERS ONLY NO JOKES PLEASE
I don't know. After 5 years does he love you and treat you well? It sounds like it.
I know quite a few gay men who were married to women, who had children and successful relationships for a long time. Likewise, I know several women who decided they were lesbians after years of marriage and children.
I also know several effeminate men who I could have sworn who would come out as gay, who have turned out to be great husbands and fathers and are truly heterosexual in all ways.
You can't guarantee that any relationship will last or be successful forever. If you love him, just love him for who he is, even if he's not the most masculine man in the world.
i think this has to do with your own insecurities than it has to do with him. do you feel that you are not feminine enough? because afterall, he doesn't seem to have done anything wrong here yet it's you who have imagined this...maybe you are right and he likes dudes but if the relationship and everything that goes with it is good, i'd continue with it.
Im an honest man. And I believe you are a troll!ops:
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