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this year my wife and I are celebrating our 20th anniversary. For this occasion we decided on 2 gifts. First I would upgrade her wedding band because the original had a small diamond (all I could afford at the time) and she wanted a 2 karat diamond to replace it. I saw the ring just before Christmas and purchased it. Of course she was with me, and she immediately started wearing it (Primarily on special occasions). The other "gift" was a trip to the Carribean which she would pay for. Recently we had an argument, and she was upset with me. Our anniversary came and went last week (I took time off anticipating the trip). We spent our anniversary night out at dinner, and when I mentioned the trip she stated she was still upset with me so she cancelled the plans to book the trip. I played it off as if I understood, and when she left for work the next day I took the ring back and got my money back for the ring. She didn't notice it till yesterday. I told her what I did and she said I did was being "passive aggressive". I said we had an agreement and I came through with my end, and to hold being upset with me as punnishment for not booking the trip was lame on her part. What do you think?
So, one wrong after another huh? You guys play with money too much--you should just funnel the monetary gains to my account, that'll be your donation to the fledgling economy.
Kidding (sorta) aside, she was wrong, you were wrong--you'll get into a fight even more, calm down and then discuss it rationally after the blow up. In the meantime I'll hold the monetary leverage for yall.
Well, in my eyes it's weird that after 20 years of marriage, you guys are still saying, "I pay for this, she pays for that"......
But as far as what you did.....a little petty, but it really depends on what she did. It seems like all your anniversary was was a financial transaction.
I never did get a ring with a diamond. I told my hubby that I just wanted a plain gold band. I guess I'm overly practical. I've never taken it off and I had a small child when I got married and I didn't want to scratch him with it. My sisters ooh and ahh over each other's rings. I guess I just don't get it.
Were you the guy on Ophra last week? just kidding!
I think you are wrong to take the ring back because you did it to make her happy in the first place, right?
For her, she should discuss this further with you. Where did I hear, you shouldn't sleep on a augment? This should have been resolved before your anniversary day.
Forget the holiday trip for now, try to get to the root of these problems first. All
monies should go in the big pot as a sharing couple.
Unless the argument you had involved some clandestine antics with your babysitter or Sheila down in accounts receivable at your office, canceling the vacation seems really drastic. Something tells me you were both acting like a couple of hotheads. Shame on you. You should both know better.
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just kidding!
