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He comes by and socializes with me...and a couple of others around me daily. There are some (about 1/3 of the people) he doesn't socialize with.
To that end, some of us said we'd go to lunch at one of the restaurants we hit on a rotating basis to say good-bye. Therefore, I rallied up the people he speaks with (again, about 2/3 of those nearby in the office) for lunch this week and did NOT mention it to those he doesn't socialize with (that 1/3 I was talking about).
So, did I handle it correctly? The reason I ask is that I don't like cliquish people and this appears to somewhat like that.
I'd just send an email out to the group and let them decide for themselves whether they want to join or not. If they don't like him, they can always 'miss' the email. If you do it verbally, you'll probably make someone feel obligated to attend who wouldn't in another situation.
Also in an office setting, some people are offended if they aren't invited to be part of a group outing, regardless of who the person is, and may take it personally. Some people are strange like that.
I think I'd mention it to the "other 1/3". Something like, "Some of us are taking Joe Schmoe out for a farewell lunch. I know you and he aren't close, but I didn't want you to feel left out. If you'd like to join us I need to know for reservations...."
I think I'd mention it to the "other 1/3". Something like, "Some of us are taking Joe Schmoe out for a farewell lunch. I know you and he aren't close, but I didn't want you to feel left out. If you'd like to join us I need to know for reservations...."
You don't have to include the "closeness" reference. You never know- they might still come to show their support. That closeness comment might make them feel awkward. You never know, they might think the working relationship they have with the guy is fine. Some people don't feel the need to have an extensive relationship with their co-workers. I'd just simply invite them, give them the option to accept or decline.
You don't have to include the "closeness" reference. You never know- they might still come to show their support. That closeness comment might make them feel awkward. You never know, they might think the working relationship they have with the guy is fine. Some people don't feel the need to have an extensive relationship with their co-workers. I'd just simply invite them, give them the option to accept or decline.
I'd just send an email out to the group and let them decide for themselves whether they want to join or not. If they don't like him, they can always 'miss' the email. If you do it verbally, you'll probably make someone feel obligated to attend who wouldn't in another situation.
Also in an office setting, some people are offended if they aren't invited to be part of a group outing, regardless of who the person is, and may take it personally. Some people are strange like that.
i agree with IZ411 here, send it out to everyone and let people decide.
It happens, cliques that is. Every office I've ever been in it's there - the group that does lunch all the time. Trust me, having worked solidly for the past 20 years, I've yet to see anyone get hurt feelings about it. In my personal experience, it's kind of like an unwritten rule that states, "hey, if you want to come, the more the merrier" but it's always the same group. I have friends in different departments and just usually go home for lunch but know I need only ask around to see what everyone is doing and join if I want. A personal invitation is always nice but realistically who really does that on a daily basis? Just my personal opinion.
By inviting most of the office you've made it a company function. If you leave out 1/3, you can cause resentment in the office. Put the shoe on the other foot: how would you feel if most of the office got invited to a function and you were left out? Like ani said, those who do know or like your co-worker won't show up and if it's their choice not to show up, there's no resentment.
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