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I went out with some co-workers last weekend and a guy started talking to me. We weren't speaking for long, but when it was time to go, one of my co-workers gave him my number.
Well, he called. What's the best way to tell him that I'm not interested without hurting his feelings?
Guys want straight to the point. Just tell him that you're not looking to spend any time with him, period. If you give a wishy-washy excuse, then he might take that as you playing hard to get and so then will become even more of a pest.
BTW - what "co-worker" gives your phone number to random guys? I would be having a chat with this girl to see what the heck she was thinking by doing this. It is an invasion of your privacy, to say the least!
Tell him you are ->really flattered<- but you are dating someone else, that he is a great guy and you would have loved to meet him again if you were not on the go with this someone...
Thats what I told a girl who told me about her feelings that I didn't share...
Btw what kind of people gives out your number??? I'd get furious!
Edit: If he then thinks ur playing hard to get, tell him you said it to be nice and then go straight for the point like the guy above said...
I went out with some co-workers last weekend and a guy started talking to me. We weren't speaking for long, but when it was time to go, one of my co-workers gave him my number.
Well, he called. What's the best way to tell him that I'm not interested without hurting his feelings?
I would just be honest and tell him that you are not interested. Then I would call your co-worker and give them a verbal lashing.
He knows I'm not seeing anyone else, but I'm not interested because I found out that he has a son with a woman who has 2 other kids by 2 other men. He also doesn't have a steady job, which I'm not holding against him in this market, but he doesn't have a career or skill and is just temporarily in a slump. Also, he's 30 and sleeps on his couch every night.... just not for me.
We had one telephone conversation and I found out all this and that's when I decided not to proceed with this. When he calls again, I'll start with: "I'm really flattered, but ....?"
BTW... my co-worker was pretty drunk at the time and I think she thought I need a guy and was doing me a favor.... and he asked.
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