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I have been with my husband for 5years he does not like me to go anywhere without him he has had bad relationships in the past and
does not trust me. I have told him a thousand times I am not them
but nothing seems to work with him. I have prayed & prayed, I
know God hears me, but I just sit and wait for the answers.
maybe I have already gotten the answer and I am not listening
can anyone help me?
I have been with my husband for 5years he does not like me to go anywhere without him he has had bad relationships in the past and
does not trust me. I have told him a thousand times I am not them
but nothing seems to work with him. I have prayed & prayed, I
know God hears me, but I just sit and wait for the answers.
maybe I have already gotten the answer and I am not listening
can anyone help me?
Sometimes people can fall into a trap of trying to "save" people. He has a victim mentality.
I bet he was like this before you married him but you refused to see it or thought you could show him that not all women are bad and can't be trusted.
He gave you all the signs when he told you about all the bad women in his past.
You really need to start taking care of yourself. You are wasting away some of your best years trying to help someone who won't help themselves.
If he won't seek help for his abandonment issues after five years of this it may be time to move on.
You can't save the world if you destroy yourself in the process.
Trust me he will go on to find a new victim and explain to them what a bad woman YOU were to him.
Sometimes we wait for prayers to be answered when we already know the answer.
God doesn't want you to be abused for five more years.
Marriage is a spiritual connection and it should not be so easily broken when we get tired of our spouse. I think so many people see all the warning signs before they get married, if you have any doubts then don't get married. We can not change husbands and wives like we do our shoes. Every person will have issues there is no perfect mate, pray, pray, and pray. It is also important to talk to your spouse, communication is everything. Put your foot down and do not be a prisioner in your own home, that is no way to live. God Bless!!!
your not alone!!!!!!!!!!i Know just how you feel,I cant even type on the computer without him reading it ( hes showering now) Every conversation we have is him accusing me of cheating or him saying how hes not dirty he would never cheat on me. I can't go anywhere without him and I have to look at the ground orI am accused of looking at some other man. He's said if i cheated on him he would flush me down the toilet in little bits. Ive never cheated.He wasn't always like this. I cant talk on the phone until he has made sure its me family but he says I have no use for friends and all my neighbors who I used to talk to are just out to use me for something. I don't know what todo I am disabled and I just had back surgery and I feel I depend on him to survive He does all the cooking and cleaning I know I need to leave him. But Ive triedto but my foot down he either cries for hours or refuses to leave.
Can you tell someone that you are in love with them, but in the next breath, tell them that you do not trust them?
He needs to work on his issues, and quick.
You need to get out of it.Because it's not your problem, it's his. You don't want to be the victim. If you stay,you will start having mental problems which will destroy you.
I thank you all for your advice will remember what you all have told me.
As for rebecca the cage i guess we got alot in common, don't we.
Sit tight for now pray and read your bible for strenght god will show you
the way. But listen close to what he is saying don't be like me and enorge
the answer. Stay in touch!
Call your family, see who can put you up, pack your things and LEAVE!!!!! And do not go back to him unless he is willing to treat you like a grown woman.
Both of these guys are holding you ladies prisoners. I won't say what you should do, but the guys' mindsets are that they OWN you, and that's just one short step away from physical abuse when he decides you've disobeyed or disrespected him. Good luck to you both!
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