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I'm meeting 2 guys this week, the third blew it. He said something transactional-ish. I lost interest, and said as much, without being rude. He went middle school on me, insulted me, called me a wh*re. LOL. Some people don't handle rejection well. This is what I try to draw out before I meet people. This why I take my time; they typically can't pull off the farce for very long.
The other two seem really nice, very gentlemanly, very together.
I still have email coming in, so we'll see how that goes.
I'm meeting 2 guys this week, the third blew it. He said something transactional-ish. I lost interest, and said as much, without being rude. He went middle school on me, insulted me, called me a wh*re. LOL. Some people don't handle rejection well. This is what I try to draw out before I meet people. This why I take my time; they typically can't pull off the farce for very long.
The other two seem really nice, very gentlemanly, very together.
I still have email coming in, so we'll see how that goes.
Yeah the problem with men who are at these sites, is that they expect you to be what real women are not. If they have problems dating and they subscribe to a service such as this, the expectations are that they will get what they want because they are paying.
In real life, women probably tell them to buzz off quite regularly. So they expect more from a service such as this. If you are into money, then you will do whatever they want. That is the name of the game (and of the site). If you're not in it for the money, the men wonder just how they will ever get what they want. In other words, you're in the wrong place altogether.
Yeah the problem with men who are at these sites, is that they expect you to be what real women are not. If they have problems dating and they subscribe to a service such as this, the expectations are that they will get what they want because they are paying.
I think there is a general impression that people who go online for companionship are desperate or have trouble in the real world. But on specilaized sites, such as this one, it really seems to be a matter of convenience. Its not like you can approach someone at the checkout aisle and say, "Hey, do you want a sugardaddy?". LOL.
I'm sure there are some who are, in fact, compensating for one thing or another (they're married, older/not as marketable, too busy/no time for a committed relationship). But I can't really say this is always the case, so far.
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In real life, women probably tell them to buzz off quite regularly. So they expect more from a service such as this. If you are into money, then you will do whatever they want. That is the name of the game (and of the site). If you're not in it for the money, the men wonder just how they will ever get what they want. In other words, you're in the wrong place altogether.
The 2 guys I am meeting are not looking for someone who will do anything for money; at least that is what they tell me now (if that's not the case I will find out soon enough). They are actually quite handsome, very well mannered; pretty marketable from what I can tell so far. The fact that they are open to someone older is very telling (I'm 39, and don't fit the mold of a sugarbaby). They know my expectations/limitations and still want to meet. It's not your typical SD/SB relationship they are after; they'd have nothing to gain with me there. I will (and have) walked away from money if all the elements of a traditional relationship are not in place; chemistry, mutual respect/interests and a basis of friendship. I actually have to like them and look forward to being with them.
I think there is a general impression that people who go online for companionship are desperate or have trouble in the real world. But on specilaized sites, such as this one, it really seems to be a matter of convenience...
We now routinely do all sorts of things online that used to be done exclusively in person: banking and investing, travel arrangements, medical advice, even sex. Why do some people still have a hangup about meeting people online? There's nothing "desperate" (or whatever) about it! Has it supplanted meeting in person? Of course not. It's just another way to meet people...just as going online is another way of doing all sorts of things that used to be done differently.
There are too many people with too many hang-ups, IMHO. I cannot understand how and why so many people self-impose constraints on their way of thinking.
We now routinely do all sorts of things online that used to be done exclusively in person: banking and investing, travel arrangements, medical advice, even sex. Why do some people still have a hangup about meeting people online? There's nothing "desperate" (or whatever) about it! Has it supplanted meeting in person? Of course not. It's just another way to meet people...just as going online is another way of doing all sorts of things that used to be done differently.
Absolutely. I turned to the net because it's just so much easier. I let them know what I'm looking for up front, if it's not in line with their needs, they can move on to the next gal. It saves so much time, as opposed to meeting someone randomly in the hopes they are looking for the same things I am.
I have no problem meeting men offline. I'm just lazier about it....lol.
I am not against dating online in any way ,shape ,or form. Nor do I see people who do as desperate. But this site you are in PTC is all about the sugar daddy/sugar baby deal that many men will automatically think that if they are putting out any money or gifts, they are getting something in return. You can't naively beleive that these men are going to give you something for nothing. It might not be posted in beg red bold letters when you enter the site, but its understood that this situation functions this way. If these men are being great with you, thats awesome, the more power to you, just don't forget that many of these men are not thinking they will find their dream girl here. Many are looking for a FWB deal and if thats cool with you, then great. I just wanted to clarify.
I deleted my account and told that one guy that I was just not interested in anything.
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