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IMO, a person should be judged by his/her character and actions. i would judge a person badly if they did bad things and associated with others who did bad things.
never thought of it this way but I like it, why would you hang around idiots if you aren't one? Lots of different types of friends? then what can you make of a person if he keeps lots of different company?
Sometimes you don't even know who you are hanging out with. They have a really good facade and are misleading.
People who seem to be really close and true friends. Yes you should judge. Here is an example of what I mean.
My ex-roommate used to brag and boast about his friends, however, I noticed he kept me at a distance. That made me offended. So finally one day I met his group of elite female "friends" and I thought in my head "ugh, these people are shallow and boring and don't really appear to be friendly at all" ha ha. So like the saying goes birds of a feather do flock together, all the "friends" resembled my roommate (unfriendly, boring, and shallow), but sometimes in life there is a stray bird in there not knowing who he or she is associating with.
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Originally Posted by msboom
Should a man or woman be judged by the company he or she keeps? Is the birds of a feather stereotype accurate?
Everybody has done bad things before, therefore, I should automatically judge you as a bad person for doing bad things.
Actually I judge people on their level of friendliness, humor, and compassion. If they aren't that way and most people ARE NOT, then I generally do not get along with them. Type A and narcissistic personalities usually rub me the wrong way at all times.
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Originally Posted by samston
IMO, a person should be judged by his/her character and actions. i would judge a person badly if they did bad things and associated with others who did bad things.
I'd say "yes" with qualifications. For the most part, yes, you can judge someone by the company he or she keeps -- however, variety is the spice of life. If a man (or woman) has basically solid people as friends and aquaintances but hangs out with one or two fruit loops for "color", I'd still consider him or her a good person -- depending on the circumstances and other factors.
Well it can work in all sorts of ways. I felt that people didn't want to associate with me because I used to be openly supportive of GLBT people. Before other people knew I was that way, they would just see a single hateful person avoiding and ignoring me as if I was some evil person. Not only that but a lot of guilt tripping and evil eye looks. Well that lead to a lot of isolation and suffering. Hopefully karma has payed them back.
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Originally Posted by WestCobb
I'd say "yes" with qualifications. For the most part, yes, you can judge someone by the company he or she keeps -- however, variety is the spice of life. If a man (or woman) has basically solid people as friends and aquaintances but hangs out with one or two fruit loops for "color", I'd still consider him or her a good person -- depending on the circumstances and other factors.
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