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If I think a girl is quality relationship material, I'll be glad to wait to have sex with her. These girls are hard to find.
I consider a girl too easy if she is so likely to give it up to a guy she doesn't care about. That pretty much falls under "easy" in my book. If she's going to easily sleep with someone she doesn't care about, she's ONS material more than relationship material. Maybe I'll be the dick in this situation and take her for one fun night, but I'd never be the sucker who gives her a relationship and develops feelings for her.
You're not someone with an uncommon attitude about this, it's extremely common for girls to not want to seem easy to a guy they actually care about. But if you give it up easily to someone you DON'T care about, you're easy, and I wouldn't let myself develop feelings for you. So it doesn't matter who you're being easy with, as long as I find out.
I think a lot of guys have a problem with women who want to take it slow with you for instance, but in the past they gave it up to guys in the past really quick. I understand that some women would do that for a serious relationship, but it could be a turn off for a guy & think he's not as attractive enough as the guys she's been with in the past if she was willing to have sex with them right away or didn't take as long to do it with them.
If I think a girl is quality relationship material, I'll be glad to wait to have sex with her. These girls are hard to find.
I consider a girl too easy if she is so likely to give it up to a guy she doesn't care about. That pretty much falls under "easy" in my book. If she's going to easily sleep with someone she doesn't care about, she's ONS material more than relationship material. Maybe I'll be the dick in this situation and take her for one fun night, but I'd never be the sucker who gives her a relationship and develops feelings for her.
You're not someone with an uncommon attitude about this, it's extremely common for girls to not want to seem easy to a guy they actually care about. But if you give it up easily to someone you DON'T care about, you're easy, and I wouldn't let myself develop feelings for you. So it doesn't matter who you're being easy with, as long as I find out.
So you had to go find a FIVE year old thread to respond to???
I think a lot of guys have a problem with women who want to take it slow with you for instance, but in the past they gave it up to guys in the past really quick. I understand that some women would do that for a serious relationship, but it could be a turn off for a guy & think he's not as attractive enough as the guys she's been with in the past if she was willing to have sex with them right away or didn't take as long to do it with them.
I wouldn't take it personally and think it made me less attractive. I just don't think easy girls are relationship material, nor are girls with a lot of past sexual partners.
If I think a girl is quality relationship material, I'll be glad to wait to have sex with her. These girls are hard to find.
So let me get this straight: You're willing to wait for someone you think is quality, but a woman can't do the same? Did it ever occur to you that a woman might see a man who would try to get into a woman's pants on the first couple of dates as low quality himself?
Sorry, guys, but like you, women have their Right people and their Tonight people. I had a couple of weird cases where a one-nighter turned into multi-year relationships, which surprised me, but basically, if a man tries to put the moves on me on the first or second date, it tells me that's what he's after. He then gets put into the Tonight bin IF he's good-looking, built, and I'm feeling randy. And then I am done with him. I'm also done with him if I don't sleep with him. It really depends on what's in it for me at that point and what I want to do, since he has put himself in the position of being easy, himself.
Trying not to judge you here but this is one reason why guys don't understand women. The guy you like you make wait? The guy you don't, it's game on? Haha. Doesn't make any sense.
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Originally Posted by AppleCherry
Be honest.
I have a mental rule that if I'm genuinely interested/attracted to guy and want to have a relationship with him, then I keep things slow on the sexual front.
If it's a guy that I don't really care about, I'm not as restrained (even though I use that term loosely because in general, I'm not the promiscuous type at all).
Is it true that once a guy knows he can get sex from a girl easy, he'll never see her as girlfriend material?
Trying not to judge you here but this is one reason why guys don't understand women. The guy you like you make wait? The guy you don't, it's game on? Haha. Doesn't make any sense.
Yeah, that's a huge turn off to a lot of guys whether women know it or not. Personally, I wouldn't be with a woman that's had a lot of casual sex. A woman has the right to have as much sex as she wants, but I just wouldn't feel compatible with her. It's just one of those double standards I suppose.
So let me get this straight: You're willing to wait for someone you think is quality, but a woman can't do the same? Did it ever occur to you that a woman might see a man who would try to get into a woman's pants on the first couple of dates as low quality himself?
Sorry, guys, but like you, women have their Right people and their Tonight people. I had a couple of weird cases where a one-nighter turned into multi-year relationships, which surprised me, but basically, if a man tries to put the moves on me on the first or second date, it tells me that's what he's after. He then gets put into the Tonight bin IF he's good-looking, built, and I'm feeling randy. And then I am done with him. I'm also done with him if I don't sleep with him. It really depends on what's in it for me at that point and what I want to do, since he has put himself in the position of being easy, himself.
Goose, gander.
But you realize that a lot of guys get turned off by women who have sex with particular people right away, than all of a sudden want to make you wait if you want a relationship with them. It's like that shows a man he's not seen as attractive as the ones that the woman has had sex with right away. I know that women say they want to take it slow with guys they want serious relationships with, but a lot of men view that as being seen as not attractive as the casual partners. Call it insecurity or whatever, but I can't exactly blame men for thinking that way.
But you realize that a lot of guys get turned off by women who have sex with particular people right away, than all of a sudden want to make you wait if you want a relationship with them. It's like that shows a man he's not seen as attractive as the ones that the woman has had sex with right away. I know that women say they want to take it slow with guys they want serious relationships with, but a lot of men view that as being seen as not attractive as the casual partners. Call it insecurity or whatever, but I can't exactly blame men for thinking that way.
How would you even know the timeframe when any particular woman slept with any of her previous partners?
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