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You have to be insensitive if you don't want to get hurt out there. Expressing emotions and feelings is a sign of weakness IMO at least. Also women aren't attracted to crap like that (doesn't matter what women say, their actions speak louder than words).
I honestly don't know how you pick up women. Are you saying that those women you date fall for your selfish ideas and don't care about being treated like trash? Or are you saying that you lie to them and express affection that is not there and they fall for it? You said in another thread that you lied to women. So I'm guessing you do express emotions and feelings, but don't actually feel them?
I honestly don't know how you pick up women. Are you saying that those women you date fall for your selfish ideas and don't care about being treated like trash? Or are you saying that you lie to them and express affection that is not there and they fall for it? You said in another thread that you lied to women. So I'm guessing you do express emotions and feelings, but don't actually feel them?
Lust is a powerful feeling Oh and I don't tell them my, "ideas." I never talk about marriage, kids, or anything long term relationship. Most of the time women do the talking, you know women these days can't stop talking. I say as little as possible. The only emotion I express towards her is in a sexual fashion such as holding hands, cuddling, kissing and other stuff like that.
I don't treat them like trash. My main goal is to find someone who is sexually attracted to me and I enjoy being around. If I can tell that she isn't sexually attracted to me then I just move on and be done with it. So if I make offers to be alone with her (go back to her place, my place etc.) and she declines them then it clearly tells me that she doesn't like me that way. Once I find that out, I move on. No big deal.
I can't stress it enough. The main goal is finding someone who is sexually attracted to you and you enjoy being around them. Sorry but the buying her crap she doesn't need, practicing abstinence, spending tons of time "getting to know her", going on 6,000 asexual dates etc. sorry but I am not going to be doing that.
I've been there and done that. It is a total and complete waste of time.
Last edited by killer2021; 05-02-2009 at 11:43 PM..
So I've known this one guy for about 3 years, hes one of my older brothers friends and we worked together. We always playfully firted back and forth and just recently I ran into him when he came into my work. He lives 3 hours away from me and I was going down there to go to a concert so I decided to crash at his place. He was telling me how he always had a thing for me and we both ended up getting really drunk and we had sex. After that he kept texting me saying that we have to hang out again and that he really wants to see me. One weekend I didnt have anything going on so I called him and ended up going down there. We hung out and went to a sports bar and I got really drunk (which I didnt want to do because I'm not a big drinker) and we had sex again. We usually talked a couple of times a day and now he talks to me once a day, if that. I'm not the kind of girl whos just a booty call. He has a lot of friends that are girls..so I'm wondering if he does this thing all the time. Is he a player who just wanted a booty call or does he really like me?
you wonder if he was using you for a booty call, sounds kinda like you used him too. you stayed at his house because you went to a concert in his town. in hindsight a hotel might have been a better choice.
you say after the second time went from several calls a day to only one. he is still calling you once a day and you are insecure that he isn't calling more? sounds like you are more conflicted about having casual sex. you allowed yourself and now feel guilty and seem to want to say you are really not that way. no you probably are not this way all the time, but you were this time. I wouldn't feel bad about it, he likes you, you like him. it happened. nothing to feel guilty about.
if you are upset that you let it happen then next time protect yourself better in the future. make sure you do things on your own terms and you will always feel good about what you do
I ignore killer. I think he's a liar or a player. Either way, he's a bad person with no moral compass. killer and people like him are why so many people have trust issues.
So I've known this one guy for about 3 years, hes one of my older brothers friends and we worked together. We always playfully firted back and forth and just recently I ran into him when he came into my work. He lives 3 hours away from me and I was going down there to go to a concert so I decided to crash at his place. He was telling me how he always had a thing for me and we both ended up getting really drunk and we had sex. After that he kept texting me saying that we have to hang out again and that he really wants to see me. One weekend I didnt have anything going on so I called him and ended up going down there. We hung out and went to a sports bar and I got really drunk (which I didnt want to do because I'm not a big drinker) and we had sex again. We usually talked a couple of times a day and now he talks to me once a day, if that. I'm not the kind of girl whos just a booty call. He has a lot of friends that are girls..so I'm wondering if he does this thing all the time. Is he a player who just wanted a booty call or does he really like me?
If he does what all the time? It seems to me that you have a pattern of getting drunk and then having sex.
Its hard to say what the guy is looking for. He hasn't been clear to you and you haven't been clear to him. There's a good chance its just sex, but there's also a chance he likes you and would be interested in more. Why not ask him? Don't be accusatory, because you don't have any reason to be mad if it is only sex he is interested in. Just be straight up about it, and see if he's interested in pursuing anything more with you.
One question though - is he close to your brother? If he is that'd raise a flag for me. Maybe I'm old fashioned, but I know I wouldn't sleep with a good buddy's sister, and certainly not a drunken romp. To me, if he's close to your brother, and he engaged in this stuff anyway, it suggests a bit of an issue. That's just me though . Could be your brother doesn't care.
your three hours away do you really think it will work?
Just take the hit and have fun, but dont drink and drive
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Oh and I don't tell them my, "ideas." I never talk about marriage, kids, or anything long term relationship. Most of the time women do the talking, you know women these days can't stop talking. I say as little as possible. The only emotion I express towards her is in a sexual fashion such as holding hands, cuddling, kissing and other stuff like that. 
. Could be your brother doesn't care.
