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We've been hanging out having sleepovers for about 1 1/2 years. Last time we were together he told me he doesn't want to have any attachments because he follows the Buddhist philosophy that "attachment causes suffering." He also said he likes me the best out of any other girl because I'm different and cool and other girls are annoying, so I'm the only one he sees.
When we went to bed I told him I wasn't in the mood to have sex and he said that is okay we can just cuddle. Then all night he was holding me tight and if I tried to move away to sleep he would pull me back to him and wrap me up in his arms. I don't think he fell asleep all night and kept caressing my face and giving me soft kisses on my face.
In the morning we had s ex and I think he accidentally said "I love you" but it was a whisper so I couldn't hear if he said it for sure.
He also talks like he plans to be in my life for a long time. For instance talking about if I ever have children how that might affect my body and how he feels about that, etc.
You're going to have to ask HIM instead of us. Only he knows why he does what he does. It sounds like he really cares, but doesn't want commitment, but, really, check it out with him. You don't want to play guessing games.
Ha ha he uses 'the attachment creates suffering' saying to avoid a relationship with you.
Let's hope he isn't manipulating you which is what I think he is doing. He already said "attachment creates suffering", so he might be trying to get you to be attached, and then you later find out he isn't so into you, then you will be the one suffering.
Because if you don't, then I would just not think about this type of stuff and focus on maintaining your relationship the way you want it. If he wants more and you're not giving more, then he'll either leave or tell you that he wants more.
To avoid a relationship? Who said the relationship had to have attachment.
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Originally Posted by ILikeSmartHippies
It's a good truth, I've used it myself.
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