How do you have sex or foreplay with no emotions? (marriage, gay)
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Seriously, I've heard about this junk all through college life, the gay life style and on the forum. How the heck do you have foreplay and sex with no emotions? How do you just turn off emotions? I feel like such an incompetent freak because I can't do that
Seriously, I've heard about this junk all through college life, the gay life style and on the forum. How the heck do you have foreplay and sex with no emotions? How do you just turn off emotions? I feel like such an incompetent freak because I can't do that
Tell me your secrets. Do tell....do tell...
if you are the kind of person that is always saying "I must have the emotions 100% yet I can't seem to have it just for fun" then you are on the opposite side of the spectrum than the kind of person who is always saying "I must have fun 100% and yet I can't seem to have it with emotion". So basically that means you need to focus on the "fun" aspect. Lots of laughing, giggling, blushing, etc. Little to zero "I'm sharing my feelings about things". Eventually you can come to a better balance, rather than your current "99% emotion 1% fun", having some mix perhaps "70% emotion 30% fun". In practice this means: focus only on the parts of being with a new partner which makes you laugh and have a good time, and if the relationship starts getting into how you/he/she feels, return back to "let's just have fun!" and make some jokes. You can go all the way to sex & perhaps even marriage this way, knowing zero about the other person and having "fun" the entire way.
(by "fun" I mean, constantly keeping everything light & joking. This doesnt imply that being on the emotional side isn't fun, it is just for the purposes here, I am calling the non-emotion side the "100% fun" side.)
Sharing feelings about things in regards to what things? Is it ok to share opinions? I know you said that the goal is to not get to know each other.
Can anybody here confirm that Hippie is offering strong advice?
Lots of laughing and giggling oh there is tons of that already during foreplay etc.
What is the point of making it non-emotional?
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Originally Posted by ILikeSmartHippies
if you are the kind of person that is always saying "I must have the emotions 100% yet I can't seem to have it just for fun" then you are on the opposite side of the spectrum than the kind of person who is always saying "I must have fun 100% and yet I can't seem to have it with emotion". So basically that means you need to focus on the "fun" aspect. Lots of laughing, giggling, blushing, etc. Little to zero "I'm sharing my feelings about things". Eventually you can come to a better balance, rather than your current "99% emotion 1% fun", having some mix perhaps "70% emotion 30% fun". In practice this means: focus only on the parts of being with a new partner which makes you laugh and have a good time, and if the relationship starts getting into how you/he/she feels, return back to "let's just have fun!" and make some jokes. You can go all the way to sex & perhaps even marriage this way, knowing zero about the other person and having "fun" the entire way.
(by "fun" I mean, constantly keeping everything light & joking. This doesnt imply that being on the emotional side isn't fun, it is just for the purposes here, I am calling the non-emotion side the "100% fun" side.)
What questions. It's hilarious you're asking if my advice is any good, LOL.
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