What kinds of early red flags have you noticed when dating...

[Texas User]

Originally Posted by Nala8

...people who turned out to be:

1. Clingy or very needy
2. Commitmentphobic
3. Controlling
4. Careless or cavalier

I'm hoping for specific, real-life examples, such as calling you more than five times in one day, not letting you make firm plans with them for dates or vacations, randomly breaking dates, or being chronically late.

What kind of stuff makes you cringe inside or freeze and say no no no. Let's stop right here before this gets ugly.

Any yellow or green flags?

[susangggg]

Originally Posted by Texas User

Any yellow or green flags?

Green:
charm *and* thoughtfulness - rare combination
sincerity
modesty
high standards/low promiscuity (but how to know whether it's true or not)
shows interest (follows through, calls/texts, wants to spend time
admires your positive traits that are not looks-related
not annoyed by your negative traits
interested in whether or not you're dating anyone else
is protective
looks like Christian Bale or Brad Pitt (ok just kidding. well kind of)

Yellow:
Doesn't treat you like you want
You don't feel sparks
You don't feel happy around them ***this one especially!!

[mellanieblue]

Originally Posted by susangggg

Green:
charm *and* thoughtfulness - rare combination
sincerity
modesty
high standards/low promiscuity (but how to know whether it's true or not)
shows interest (follows through, calls/texts, wants to spend time
admires your positive traits that are not looks-related
not annoyed by your negative traits
interested in whether or not you're dating anyone else
is protective
looks like Christian Bale or Brad Pitt (ok just kidding. well kind of)

Yellow:
Doesn't treat you like you want
You don't feel sparks
You don't feel happy around them ***this one especially!!

You know you're not kidding! LOL

[Huckleberry3911948]

vicious treatment of waiters.