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Maybe he just builds people up, meets them in hopes of getting sex, and then disappears. I'm betting there's a string of ladies thinking the same thing. Wouldn't take it personally, but it would explain you getting along, and then him not pursuing.
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Originally Posted by Sunil's Dad You seem not to be that much into him........so why do you care if he is into you or not?
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Originally Posted by dave nz
My thought exactly. Maybe she just wants an ego boost.
In my opinion, most of the best prospects - not the "hot" prospects - have been burned enough and are reluctant to put themselves into the meat grinder again. They might be thinking "she may be interested - naaah probably not" and they are usually right.
I know you aren't supposed to have dating rules, but I have 3:
1. If he doesn't call within 3 days, HE IS NOT INTERESTED! Do not answer calls after 3 days. If he liked me enough, he would have called sooner.
I really thought he was into me, but I guess I can not read men at all!
LOL
and one of my rules is to wait at least 5 days (or a week) before calling!
so as not to appear too desperate or needy or like i am chasing someone, also so as to give myself time to settle down and not jump into anything that might cause problems later, it other words sit with it for a few days
so your signs of "disinterest" could very well be someone else's signs of "interest"
ROFL
I know you aren't supposed to have dating rules, but I have 3:
1. If he doesn't call within 3 days, HE IS NOT INTERESTED! Do not answer calls after 3 days. If he liked me enough, he would have called sooner.
2. No kissing on the first date especially if it is a first meet.
3. If I am head over heels into someone, then I will be the first one to say that I would love to see them again and discuss making plans.
Rules beget more rules, which beget even more rules.
My rule is to have fun, which could perhaps conflict with your rules, or at least your rule-creating tendencies.
Your rules are not unreasonable, but as a rule, I would not mention your rules.
There was that guy I met on Saturday where the meet lasted over 3 hours just over coffee. He really seemed interested in me talking about seeing me again, saying I was pretty a couple of times, complimenting me, getting and pushing chairs in and out etc.
Anyway, haven't heard from him since a text right after meeting him. He is the kind of guy I would see one more time just to see if there were sparks, but I wasn't particularly wowed from just meeting him once so I won't attempt to contact him (he seemed to have issues, but I usually give people a second try).
I know you aren't supposed to have dating rules, but I have 3:
1. If he doesn't call within 3 days, HE IS NOT INTERESTED! Do not answer calls after 3 days. If he liked me enough, he would have called sooner.
2. No kissing on the first date especially if it is a first meet.
3. If I am head over heels into someone, then I will be the first one to say that I would love to see them again and discuss making plans.
After all that, I think this guy is pulling a disappearing act on me. Before we met, he called me on the phone daily or emailed me when we didn't.
I really thought he was into me, but I guess I can not read men at all!
Hey Ms. Manischewitz, if you're not into him why bother? BTW I used to be addicted to some wine that bears your last name.
There was that guy I met on Saturday where the meet lasted over 3 hours just over coffee. He really seemed interested in me talking about seeing me again, saying I was pretty a couple of times, complimenting me, getting and pushing chairs in and out etc.
Anyway, haven't heard from him since a text right after meeting him. He is the kind of guy I would see one more time just to see if there were sparks, but I wasn't particularly wowed from just meeting him once so I won't attempt to contact him (he seemed to have issues, but I usually give people a second try).
I know you aren't supposed to have dating rules, but I have 3:
1. If he doesn't call within 3 days, HE IS NOT INTERESTED! Do not answer calls after 3 days. If he liked me enough, he would have called sooner.
2. No kissing on the first date especially if it is a first meet.
3. If I am head over heels into someone, then I will be the first one to say that I would love to see them again and discuss making plans.
After all that, I think this guy is pulling a disappearing act on me. Before we met, he called me on the phone daily or emailed me when we didn't.
I really thought he was into me, but I guess I can not read men at all!
So... you haven't contacted him either? Maybe he sensed that he wasn't the perfect guy for him. Maybe he's kicking himself for talking about his dad disciplining him so harshly as a kid. Maybe he would like you to send him a quick message saying that you'd like to see him again.
Why don't you just send him a quick message saying that you had a good time talking to him?
Or... he reads this message board and read that you aren't really that interested in him. We do get a lot of lurkers reading this forum. Is your first name really Naomi?
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Wouldn't take it personally, but it would explain you getting along, and then him not pursuing.
