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So I'm curious as a guy. When a women say hits 35+ and starts to become desperate for a baby (I know not all, but some) and they are currently single, what do they typically do to try to get the ball rolling? This isn't meant to be an insult, but I'm just curious what goes through their minds when "baby fever" becomes a real thing.
So I'm curious as a guy. When a women say hits 35+ and starts to become desperate for a baby (I know not all, but some) and they are currently single, what do they typically do to try to get the ball rolling? This isn't meant to be an insult, but I'm just curious what goes through their minds when "baby fever" becomes a real thing.
"... the researchers found three factors that consistently predicted how much a person wanted to have a baby. The first factor was positive exposure -- such as holding and cuddling babies, looking after babies and looking at baby clothes and toys -- that made people want to have a baby. The second factor included negative exposure -- such as babies crying, children having tantrums and diapers, spit-up or other 'disgusting' aspects of babies -- that made people not want to have a baby. The third factor included trade-offs that come with having children -- education, career, money and social life."
It happens because sociological factors (like relatives asking when you're gonna marry and settle down or watching your peers start families) combine with biological factors (the instinct to procreate).
"... the researchers found three factors that consistently predicted how much a person wanted to have a baby. The first factor was positive exposure -- such as holding and cuddling babies, looking after babies and looking at baby clothes and toys -- that made people want to have a baby. The second factor included negative exposure -- such as babies crying, children having tantrums and diapers, spit-up or other 'disgusting' aspects of babies -- that made people not want to have a baby. The third factor included trade-offs that come with having children -- education, career, money and social life."
Are you saying that they get the "ball rolling" by holding/cuddling babies, looking at them and buying baby stuff"? That would be short of a miracle ...
Are you saying that they get the "ball rolling" by holding/cuddling babies, looking at them and buying baby stuff"? That would be short of a miracle ...
No, the researchers said that those were predictors of who would get "baby fever."
As you might imagine, they found that gender roles weren't actually major driving factors. Not every woman deals with this, and some men do.
I was trying to answer his second question. I've never met anyone like the OP described.
Get the ball rolling how? All she needs to do is have sex. Or adopt, if that's feasible.
What do you mean by get the ball rolling? There are women who are single, who decide to have children...is that what this is in reference to?
I don't personally know anyone who fits this description but I know a percentage of women do experience this. I don't think it's a huge percentage, even today. I do know some people who got married after 35 and had kids then but in those cases the woman had figured she just wouldn't have children and was fine with it. Then (this is two couples I know, in case anyone is wondering, similar situations) they met "the one" and the new husband & wife decided to have a child. One of these couples were in their late 30s, with the other they married in late 30s, had children when she was 41 and then 43. You can't really call that "baby fever," though.
So I'm curious as a guy. When a women say hits 35+ and starts to become desperate for a baby (I know not all, but some) and they are currently single, what do they typically do to try to get the ball rolling? This isn't meant to be an insult, but I'm just curious what goes through their minds when "baby fever" becomes a real thing.
lots of single moms out there - I am sure some of them are 35+ and got pregnant "by mistake" from some random guy or guy they start dating just to get pregnant with. Then they milk him for 20 years.
Then there are the desperate ones who get into a relationship with a guy they don't really love but who seems like he would be a good dad or has $$.
For me, every time I had baby fever I visited friends who have kids. Half an hour in their place and I am cured for another year. Broke and stressed out by choice? Nope, not for me.
Single woman. No man in sight. She feels her biological clock ticking. Every woman walking by with a stroller is like a knife in her heart. Everyone seems to be a parent at her age. She desperately wants a child. She is worried her time runs out and she needs to find a man ASAP because if she waits too long, it may be too late.
He wants to know: WHAT DO WOMEN DO IN THIS CASE? Cry and give up or ....?
I know some women who never found anyone and decided to try to adopt.
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