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Wow! So what happened? Did the employee you accused ever come back? Did he sue?
Nope, he did not sue. In fact, he took it very well. (better than I would have) We just explained the situation and he understood and we admitted we made a mistake. It all blew over.
When I was in 6th grade, a teacher overheard me bragging to my friends that I smoked pot with my brother. (He's four years older than me.) She thought I was a good kid, and she held me after class to talk to me. I cried and confessed. (The school was in a rough neighborhood, and she was one of those teachers they make movies about .. the kind who tries to keep the good kids from going wrong in a bad environment.)
She called my mom to the school and talked to her. Afterwards, my mom was very embarrassed. She came home and called me a liar. She wouldn't take my word over my brother's, even though I was right. I cried and cried.
I then decided to move out with my dad. (They had seperated a year before.) I could no longer live with a woman who didn't trust me. My mom was crushed, but she was stubborn. She refused to bend. A few months after that, she found drugs in my brother's room and confronted him. He exploded on her in anger, and shortly thereafter moved out with his dad. (Different dad.) His dad was a druggie; mine was a kind barber who read the Bible often and tried to live by those words without being self righteous.
My mom apologized to me. She expected me to move back in. I just couldn't. I didn't.
Mom died of cancer in 2006, at the age of 59. When she died, I had long forgiven her, but it still hurts a little when I really thing about it. My brother, who is 37 now, has been homeless in patches, in and out of prison, still on drugs.
If my mom would have humbled herself and listened to what my 6th grade teacher had to say, my brother may have taken a different path. I say "may" because I'm not sure. He's kind of a hard-head, and frankly, by the time he was the age when all of this went down, I think he was already determined to go down the wrong path.
Nope, he did not sue. In fact, he took it very well. (better than I would have) We just explained the situation and he understood and we admitted we made a mistake. It all blew over.
You're lucky. If my employer had made an accusation like that and then been proven wrong, I don't know if I would've sued, but I doubt I would've stayed there. I would've come back, "accepted" their apology, and then quietly start looking for another job.
You're lucky. If my employer had made an accusation like that and then been proven wrong, I don't know if I would've sued, but I doubt I would've stayed there. I would've come back, "accepted" their apology, and then quietly start looking for another job.
Well the "accused" had the responsibility of configuring our network user database. So technically, it was his fault for not deleting the former employee. It just wasn't him, per say, that was forwarding the proposals.
Neither of us had much leverage, but he is a damn good employee and I was happy to apologize and take the blame for that one.
I no longer trusted her and I think she knew it. everything she said or did from that point onward was tainted. in hindsight, I'm more convinced than ever that my initial suspicions were correct. Regardless of whether I was right or wrong, the friendship had been damaged beyond repair. That whole episode made me more reluctant to confront people, even when I know that I'm right.
i trust my gut. period. no matter what.
i have found that my intuition is reliable.
as far as confronting people, i do that less and less often, just don't see the need to
Well the "accused" had the responsibility of configuring our network user database. So technically, it was his fault for not deleting the former employee. It just wasn't him, per say, that was forwarding the proposals.
Neither of us had much leverage, but he is a damn good employee and I was happy to apologize and take the blame for that one.
You're lucky that he was at fault too.
I read an article one time about a guy who was accused by his employer of giving their cost info to a competitor. The company lost a major customer as a result so the employee was fired. When they finally asked the customer why he switched, he revealed that one the managers had sent him the cost info for their product line. It was an accident. The manager used the auto-complete feature in Outlook. When he thought he was sending the attachment to a colleague, he was actually sending it to the customer. The manager was fired, the employee who was wrongfully accused sued, and the company began losing other customers to the same competitor.
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