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Aren't views on interracial dating, age-gap relationships, even dating conventionally unattractive people often judgemental in base?
if we take interracial dating, are there many younger people who frown on this? Isn't it largely older folks, who grew up in an era where racism was more open and tolerated, and when the races didn't mix as much?
if we take age-gap relationships, well two people of differing ages could have a lot in common. this is often enough to make a relationship work.
even if one dates a very fat man/woman (as an example of a conventionally unattractive person), then so what? it could be something other than looks that attracts them, or it could be looks, who knows?
Is this just wishful thinking, or are judgemental dating attitudes to be expected?
I don't know what you are asking, frankly. Everyone has their own preferences as far as who they find attractive. I don't consider that to be "judgmental". It's simply human.
Aren't views on interracial dating, age-gap relationships, even dating conventionally unattractive people often judgemental in base?
if we take interracial dating, are there many younger people who frown on this? Isn't it largely older folks, who grew up in an era where racism was more open and tolerated, and when the races didn't mix as much?
if we take age-gap relationships, well two people of differing ages could have a lot in common. this is often enough to make a relationship work.
even if one dates a very fat man/woman (as an example of a conventionally unattractive person), then so what? it could be something other than looks that attracts them, or it could be looks, who knows?
Is this just wishful thinking, or are judgemental dating attitudes to be expected?
I was always hung up on the age thing. But my older friend whom is Philippine told me, "True Love has no Boundaries" But I still feel, it doesn't? I don't want to change his depends, have other people say, "Is that your father?, or have him die. (Which would be totally heartbreaking)
Aren't views on interracial dating, age-gap relationships, even dating conventionally unattractive people often judgemental in base?
if we take interracial dating, are there many younger people who frown on this? Isn't it largely older folks, who grew up in an era where racism was more open and tolerated, and when the races didn't mix as much?
if we take age-gap relationships, well two people of differing ages could have a lot in common. this is often enough to make a relationship work.
even if one dates a very fat man/woman (as an example of a conventionally unattractive person), then so what? it could be something other than looks that attracts them, or it could be looks, who knows?
Is this just wishful thinking, or are judgemental dating attitudes to be expected?
People judge, that's just part of human nature, and frankly usually there are at least some truth to their judgment. That said, I think this whole question is moot: does this judgmental individual have anything to do with you? If not, why do you care about their judgment. If they're part of your life, I guess you have to figure out a way to deal with it one way or another. For example, if you were white and you fell for a black dude, but your parents simply refuse to accept him no matter what. You can break up with him or learn to live with an estranged family. It's up to you to make that decision. But you're usually not in a position to tell others not to judge, in any case, it won't change anything in real life, it's just life, and in real life, people judge whether you like it or not.
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Aren't views on interracial dating, age-gap relationships, even dating conventionally unattractive people often judgemental in base?
if we take interracial dating, are there many younger people who frown on this? Isn't it largely older folks, who grew up in an era where racism was more open and tolerated, and when the races didn't mix as much?
if we take age-gap relationships, well two people of differing ages could have a lot in common. this is often enough to make a relationship work.
even if one dates a very fat man/woman (as an example of a conventionally unattractive person), then so what? it could be something other than looks that attracts them, or it could be looks, who knows?
Is this just wishful thinking, or are judgemental dating attitudes to be expected?
They might not come out and say it's wrong, but their 'preferences' reflect the fact they're not very open to it. I've actually known cases where girls were attracted to men of a different race, but decided not to pursue them because of social pressures. So it's bull**** to say it's simply preferences (yes, alot of it is, and you can't force anyone to like anyone) but societal pressures make the playing field unfair for certain groups.
I do think, however, it is changing. Probably those born after 1988 or so seem alot more open to it it seems.
People judge. It's just the way of it all the way around, not just in the dating world.
What would you think of someone who dated a psychiatrist? Hmmmm?
yes, people do judge. this is why I asked if it was wishful thinking. But I think if two people want to be together, then there is nothing wrong in the relationship.
I don't know what you are asking, frankly. Everyone has their own preferences as far as who they find attractive. I don't consider that to be "judgmental". It's simply human.
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