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OK so here it goes. Since Monday my wife has been away on business and I have been at home with the kids and going to work. My wife will return home this evening, and this afternoon after work I will be away all weekend for a conference. This morning my 11 year old daughter asks me to pick up some oak tag from the store on my way home this afternoon for a class project she is doing. I tell her that I won't be coming home this afternoon due to the conference, and to tell my wife when she gets home tonight. She immediately starts to cry. I didn't understand why because we have been having a nice this week while my wife has been away. I comfort her and continue out on my way to work. While driving in I call my wife and tell her what happened. My wife tells me that I should pick up the oak tag and drop it off at the house before I go to the conference. I remind her what the plan was and had been for the last 2 weeks (that I would go straight to the conference after work, and I thought that since she was going to be off both Saturday and Sunday that she would be able to buy the oak tag no problem). She then tells me that sometimes I need to step up as a parent and handle situations that come up. WTF?? I have been home handling whatever problem comes up and going to work, and not once while she has been away did I bother her with a "What should I do now?" type problem, nor did I ask her to pick something up on her way to the airport. What is it I'm missing here? Again thank you all in advance for your thoughts.
That is a strange reaction. Snappish and unreasonable. Only you know if this is typical for your wife or if she could be reacting because of something else (the project she's away working on is going badly?). It's no excuse, but sometimes people lash out for dumb reasons and are sorry later. Your daughter should have told you earlier that she needed this item. If you can't get it, you can't. Like you said, your wife will be home all weekend, so I don't know what the problem could be.
Your daughter is crying because Mom has been gone, and she only has you to depend on right now. So she lets you know she needs your help and you blow her off and say ask your mother when she gets home because I'm not going to be here. Not knowing how long life actually is, she only sees the present and is a little scared. I'm assuming you told your wife that your daughter began crying. Your wife saw your daughters side right away (what's more important, doing something for your kid or the conference? To you? Obviously the conference. To your daughter? She can't see the whole picture, she's just a kid.) and told you to pick it up. You then become the hero to your daughter. I don't see the wife's reaction as snappish at all. She's female and saw it more emotionally than logically like you do.
Eh, I don't see the problem in what you did. If your wife is coming home that afternoon anyway she could pick it up so you can do your business just like she has done hers already.
Your daughter is crying because Mom has been gone, and she only has you to depend on right now. So she lets you know she needs your help and you blow her off and say ask your mother when she gets home because I'm not going to be here. Not knowing how long life actually is, she only sees the present and is a little scared. I'm assuming you told your wife that your daughter began crying. Your wife saw your daughters side right away (what's more important, doing something for your kid or the conference? To you? Obviously the conference. To your daughter? She can't see the whole picture, she's just a kid.) and told you to pick it up. You then become the hero to your daughter. I don't see the wife's reaction as snappish at all. She's female and saw it more emotionally than logically like you do.
Your daughter is crying because Mom has been gone, and she only has you to depend on right now. So she lets you know she needs your help and you blow her off and say ask your mother when she gets home because I'm not going to be here. Not knowing how long life actually is, she only sees the present and is a little scared. I'm assuming you told your wife that your daughter began crying. Your wife saw your daughters side right away (what's more important, doing something for your kid or the conference? To you? Obviously the conference. To your daughter? She can't see the whole picture, she's just a kid.) and told you to pick it up. You then become the hero to your daughter. I don't see the wife's reaction as snappish at all. She's female and saw it more emotionally than logically like you do.
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