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I have a client with whom I've also been friends forever. Never any hanky-panky. Never had a conversation that I wouldn't have in front of either of our spouses, either. Essentially, every couple of months, I advise her on something, chit chat about life, then move on. A totally proper relationship.
Lately, she's calling almost weekly about just any trivial thing. Her computer acting up. The name and phone number of a long-ago acquaintance. Whatever. In short, the pattern of her calling has changed to something different.
Yesterday, I was driving home and decided to pick up lunch along the way. She called me and asked what I was doing. I mentioned that I was picking up lunch and going home. To which she said, "Well, you can eat lunch over here." Mind you, this is a woman who lives ten miles away. I have been to her house precisely twice in the past ten years or so.
Is she inviting me to do something besides lunch? Is this my imagination? And what should I do about this. No, attractive as she is, I have no intention of doing anything wrong. I'm just wondering if my instincts are right, and how do I keep her as a client. I also don't like the fact that I haven't told my wife about this conversation, either.
I wouldn't tell the wife just yet. Why get her all stirred up over something you aren't certain about? Remain polite and professional, and when she calls for trivial matters just politely tell her you can't talk right now or just keep the conversation short and cordial. If she persists and starts being more forward with you, then you can address the issue with more clarity and discuss it with your spouse if you feel compelled to share it with her.
She is an acquaintance of my wife's, but the connection is through me. My wife, to be truthful, thinks she is a bit of a dingbat.
When other women have made more overt, explicit passes at me, I have had no qualms telling my wife about it. My belief is that I'd rather have it out in the open than allow it to fester. She's pretty philosophic about it, saying that I'm easy for women to talk to. She also says that she doesn't care where I get my appetite as long as I eat at home.
1. Don't do anything that makes you uncomfortable.
2. Tell your wife and get her opinion. Chances are she will have insight you are missing.
I agree with this, especially since your wife seems pretty cool about things.
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