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So, I have this guy friend who just found out his girlfriend is pregnant. They have been together for a really long time (15+ years) but it has been a rocky relationship. He has been very hesitant to get married. He has confided in me that he is not even excited about the baby & has a ton of worries due to financial issues & pressures from the families to marry.
I am curious about how guys feel when their girlfriends or wives get pregnant? Especially those who were "surprised" by the news. And, especially those who were in a rocky relationship. Although I would love to hear from any guy & their feelings when they first heard the "news".
Also, for those that were not excited about it, how did it turn out when the baby was born? Did you feel excitement? Did you adjust okay or was it hard to bond with the baby?
Why? He is actually a really nice guy but he was in the process of breaking up w/her when she gave him the "news". It was unplanned and honestly, I think she got pregnant on purpose & was sensing he was going to end it with her. They have broken up many times & she keeps calling him and wanting to get back w/him. Does that change your feelings at all? Just wondering because as his friend I think he is an awesome person but very confused. Thanks for your thoughts though.
Why? He is actually a really nice guy but he was in the process of breaking up w/her when she gave him the "news". It was unplanned and honestly, I think she got pregnant on purpose & was sensing he was going to end it with her. They have broken up many times & she keeps calling him and wanting to get back w/him. Does that change your feelings at all? Just wondering because as his friend I think he is an awesome person but very confused. Thanks for your thoughts though.
No. He better step up to the plate and take care of that baby. His misgivings are irrelevant.
No. He better step up to the plate and take care of that baby. His misgivings are irrelevant.
Oh, he will for sure. He would never not be there for that baby. I guess I just wanted to hear from guys that have been through this before & see if anything changes. I am worried about him and hoping he falls in love with that baby & it isn't just out of obligation. Thanks.
At 47, I don't have any children, and I'm not in any relationaship with a woman that would be likely to produce any. I feel so extremely sad that the clock has pretty much run out that I really can't put my feelings into words.
I would be happily estactic to be involved with someone who was pregnant.
At 47, I don't have any children, and I'm not in any relationaship with a woman that would be likely to produce any. I feel so extremely sad that the clock has pretty much run out that I really can't put my feelings into words.
I would be happily estactic to be involved with someone who was pregnant.
Don't give up yet! I know men older than you having kids. Your response is sweet -- nice to hear from men that want kids.
Why? He is actually a really nice guy but he was in the process of breaking up w/her when she gave him the "news". It was unplanned and honestly, I think she got pregnant on purpose & was sensing he was going to end it with her.
If he was on his way out of the relationship and had no plans to commit after 15 years, why was he having unprotected sex with her? Those aren't really the actions of an "awesome person".
If she did indeed get pregnant on purpose, she made a very important decision for him, which is unconscionable. I agree that the baby has to be taken care of, but what kind of relationship are these two people going to have? 15 years of back and forth and there's still no commitment? Adults can do what they want, but please don't bring an innocent child into such a mess! I have little patience with people who think they can bend reality to suit their own purposes. She's probably going to end up a single mom with no boyfriend. He might only come around because he loves the baby, not her.
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I have little patience with people who think they can bend reality to suit their own purposes. She's probably going to end up a single mom with no boyfriend. He might only come around because he loves the baby, not her.
