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This may sound silly to some but I met this girl online and have been talking to her for over a year. In time I started to develop feelings for her and I didn't know what to do about them because I wasn't sure if I'd ever meet her and while I would tell her that I thought she was amazing I wouldn't go very far with it because I was worried about what would happen if I did. Things were good until about a month ago she told me she had a boyfriend and when she said that it felt like I had been crushed by a mountain.
I know many will probably think I should have expected this to happen because we live so far apart but I have feelings for her that I can't deny. I still talk to her like nothing is out of the ordinary but its harder now. She is the most amazing person I have ever known and I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place. What do you all think I should do? Fire away lol
I can only speak for myself here but while I think its good to use the computer to FIND someone, I think its not necessarily a good thing to allow a relationship to developo this way, its not real, you don't really get to know the person AND you may fall in love with them...but there you are in a different state...
If you feel this way...go to her, wherever she is...see if your feelings stand up to reality..
Please understand that my opinions are based on the fact that I met someone online...we were online and phone only for about 6 months...once we met, things were not the same...of course things could be very different for you, my experiences are MINE...
BUT I still say, if you feel this way, what do you have to loose, if you don't go meet her, won't you always wonder if things would have worked out if you had??
You should have went 6 months ago maybe. But there could still be hope. I'm not qualified to give you any advice either. I've never had an online relationship. You might ask her what she thinks about you paying her a visit...or visa versa.
I have mentioned meeting her sometime in the summer and she said that she'd like that and I'm planning a trip out to her state. I have no idea what will happen when I meet her but I'm so invested in this that I have to do this to find out if things are as good in person as they had been online. Thanks for the advice
I'm not an expert but ...
If you have been talking to her for over a year, why did she hide the fact that she had a boyfriend? Is that something that surfaced when you mentioned a meeting? If she conveniently left out the fact she had a boyfriend, then maybe she left out a lot more stuff too.
I'm sorry if I seem harsh, but I know if it were me I'd want the blunt truth. Please be careful if you are planning on meeting her.
I'm not an expert but ...
If you have been talking to her for over a year, why did she hide the fact that she had a boyfriend? Is that something that surfaced when you mentioned a meeting? If she conveniently left out the fact she had a boyfriend, then maybe she left out a lot more stuff too.
I'm sorry if I seem harsh, but I know if it were me I'd want the blunt truth. Please be careful if you are planning on meeting her.
Yes, I'm leaning this way myself. However, even if she did just acquire a boyfriend, why is she still talking to you instead of spending time with her significant other? Would you want to give your heart to & establish a relationship with a woman who's online at night talking to someone else? Be careful, guard your feelings & don't spend alot of $ when you seem to already have your answer. There's no shortage of women on the planet. She may "seem" like the "most amazing person you've known", but you don't really know anyone online. Only what they tell you.
It's great that you have a big heart. Give it to one who truly deserves it. Best of luck to you & I hope whatever you decide has the best outcome for you!... VV
This may sound silly to some but I met this girl online and have been talking to her for over a year. In time I started to develop feelings for her and I didn't know what to do about them because I wasn't sure if I'd ever meet her and while I would tell her that I thought she was amazing I wouldn't go very far with it because I was worried about what would happen if I did. Things were good until about a month ago she told me she had a boyfriend and when she said that it felt like I had been crushed by a mountain.
I know many will probably think I should have expected this to happen because we live so far apart but I have feelings for her that I can't deny. I still talk to her like nothing is out of the ordinary but its harder now. She is the most amazing person I have ever known and I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place. What do you all think I should do? Fire away lol
If you feel the need to meet her in person, do so. If for no other reason than closure.
I don't know how old either of you are, but if you're young, it's not unusual to not know what you want and sometimes that leads to relationships overlapping. It's not a crime, it's just a sticky situation.
At least she came clean and told you. Being that this other man is there with her physically and she felt the need to "come clean" with you, it would seem as though she had a connection with this other man.
I think what you've experienced is one of the perils of online relationships, it truly is another world.
If you feel the need to meet her in person, do so. If for no other reason than closure.
I don't know how old either of you are, but if you're young, it's not unusual to not know what you want and sometimes that leads to relationships overlapping. It's not a crime, it's just a sticky situation.
At least she came clean and told you. Being that this other man is there with her physically and she felt the need to "come clean" with you, it would seem as though she had a connection with this other man.
I think what you've experienced is one of the perils of online relationships, it truly is another world.
Yeah it hurts like hell but I dunno its confusing. I'm 23 and she's 19 so who knows what will happen, its just really hard right now. I guess I'll have to see what happens down the road
You are young and have plenty of time. Develop your other talents, abilities and interests. By all means, meet this person but don't be too surprised if she's not who you thought she was. Go do some fun things!
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That crushed feeling........
