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e-Harmony has several levels of communication, pre-formatted by the site, before you get to talk live with your potential match. If you are not interested, you archive your match and later Close it, closing it will block the other person from seeing your info or communicating with you... you can do this at any time.
The first round is 5 questions, that is the initial contact, you send 5 questions, he responds and sends you 5 questions.
The second level is: Must Haves and Can't Stands. You send a list of 10 for each, or is it 10 in total? can't remember... any ways, he sends you his.
The third level is: e-mail! you e-mail through e-Harmony, at which point you decide to exchange phone, personal e-mail and other info.
So... I've gotten through all levels of communication, and I am finally at the e-mail level with this guy, we exchange a couple more sets of q&a and his last e-mail asked:
What are your opinions on: Abortion, Gun Control, Sex before Marriage, LGBT Rights?
I was deep questions! So I answered thruthfully and honestly about what my opinions were, I do not believe it helps either of us, if I lied about it or glossed over the answer, but maybe I was too blunt? too sincere? I have yet to hear back from him... 3 days later.
Question is: Wouldn't it be better of him to say: "We don't quite see eye to eye... or I do not agree and this is a deal breaker, or something along those lines? or ultimately just 'Close the Match"!! instead of just not communicating at all... bear in mind I know he's read my e-mail, because you can see on his status when was the last time he logged in, and was active on the site.
What would you do if you were me? and what would you do if you were him? (disclaimer: there are no right or wrong answers, I already know what I would do, I am not asking for advice precisely, just for different points of view, thanks )
If I were you, I'd drop EHarmony and get on Match where its not a fustercluck to email or communicate with someone. And its cheaper.
Geez, what a maze of communication. When I met my hubs on Match, he sent a wink on day 1, we exchanged emails and were communicating that same day, phone call next day, first date 5 days later, wedding 2 years later.
Simple. Cut the bull and get right into the convo and dump the electronic middleman.
If I were you, I'd drop EHarmony and get on Match where its not a fustercluck to email or communicate with someone. And its cheaper.
Geez, what a maze of communication. When I met my hubs on Match, he sent a wink on day 1, we exchanged emails and were communicating that same day, phone call next day, first date 5 days later, wedding 2 years later.
Simple. Cut the bull and get right into the convo and dump the electronic middleman.
Thanks for the tip...
Although this comes from a couple of previous posts of mine
Hahahaha! My wife's mother offered to pay for eHarmony for both her daughters (before meeting me, of course).
I hated eHarmony. Who cares why the dude hasn't written back. Certainly you have more matches lined up? I always had at least 10 matches at any given time.
The very first message I sent to my wife on Match was "Personality means everything to me, and I can't get that through emails. Let's meet." So we did, the very next day. Married a few weeks later, and a wonderful multi-decade marriage after that.
If he read it and has not responsed, something must have cut back his level of interest. Maybe give him a little more time or ask him what his level of interest is at this point. That said, a sudden stop of communication is not a bad sign.
That said, kudos to you for being honest!! In my online dating experience, that is always the biggest problem I faced. When I met the women I had been communicating with, I so often found they were nothing what I expected them to be, because of exageration, or witholding their feelings, or outright lying (which was rare).
Except for my fiance... she was everything I thought she would be and more!
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Originally Posted by Miss Crabcakes
If I were you, I'd drop EHarmony and get on Match where its not a fustercluck to email or communicate with someone. And its cheaper.
Geez, what a maze of communication. When I met my hubs on Match, he sent a wink on day 1, we exchanged emails and were communicating that same day, phone call next day, first date 5 days later, wedding 2 years later.
Simple. Cut the bull and get right into the convo and dump the electronic middleman.
Agree here too. I did not like eHarmony. Too much going on. I met my fiance on match.com originally. (She winked at me). That was Aug 2009. We get married in March!
Wow, all those "quizzes" just to be able to talk to someone would annoy me. I know you have the membership through your dad but is there any way to quit and get any of his money back to him?
The very first message I sent to my wife on Match was "Personality means everything to me, and I can't get that through emails. Let's meet." So we did, the very next day. Married a few weeks later, and a wonderful multi-decade marriage after that.
Wow! Cool story.
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Originally Posted by Checkered24
Except for my fiance... she was everything I thought she would be and more!
Agree here too. I did not like eHarmony. Too much going on. I met my fiance on match.com originally. (She winked at me). That was Aug 2009. We get married in March!
Aww. Congrats. I know more people who have gotten married from meeting on Match than any other place.
Hahahaha! My wife's mother offered to pay for eHarmony for both her daughters (before meeting me, of course).
I hated eHarmony. Who cares why the dude hasn't written back. Certainly you have more matches lined up? I always had at least 10 matches at any given time.
The very first message I sent to my wife on Match was "Personality means everything to me, and I can't get that through emails. Let's meet." So we did, the very next day. Married a few weeks later, and a wonderful multi-decade marriage after that.
If he read it and has not responsed, something must have cut back his level of interest. Maybe give him a little more time or ask him what his level of interest is at this point. That said, a sudden stop of communication is not a bad sign.
That said, kudos to you for being honest!! In my online dating experience, that is always the biggest problem I faced. When I met the women I had been communicating with, I so often found they were nothing what I expected them to be, because of exageration, or witholding their feelings, or outright lying (which was rare).
Except for my fiance... she was everything I thought she would be and more!
Agree here too. I did not like eHarmony. Too much going on. I met my fiance on match.com originally. (She winked at me). That was Aug 2009. We get married in March!
Best of luck!
YAY!! Congrats and the best of wishes for the years to come
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Alright, here is the post/question of the day...
deep questions! So I answered thruthfully and honestly about what my opinions were, I do not believe it helps either of us, if I lied about it or glossed over the answer, but maybe I was too blunt? too sincere? I have yet to hear back from him... 3 days later. 
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