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It never seems to really be about their personality but looks the majority of the time
Ive seen women call guys creepy who seemed like normal guys approaching and talking to them then id aks the girl if its something said or did and she would say no he just seemed creepy
Ive never heard a girl call a good looking guy approaching her creepy and theyrs times the guy came off as a socially awkard creep..Hed probably have to ask to lick her shoes or soemthing for any creepy word to be used..
So ladies do you think sometimes you judge creepiness more by how the guy looks then actually creepy behavior?
I have met both great looking guys who are CREEPY and not so good looking guys who are CREEPY. I truly feel that behavior more than anything else determines if a guy is creepy or not. My ex husband is a super good looking guy and is a total CREEP. He wouldn't work, chased women, is alcoholic and loves his pot. He took off with a married woman who left her kid to be with him so this makes her a CREEP of the highest order..QUEEN of the CREEPS.
I get the feeling that you are kind of an average looking guy who perhaps has had a lady turn him aside feeling that perhaps you creeped her out?? Be aware that there are some women out there who are looking for "Joe Perfect" so be prepared to get turned away from time to time. There will be that one lady or perhaps more ladies who will sit and have a conversation with you. Those are the ones who matter, the ones who are nice and don't just stroll off trolling for bigger and better fish in that huge sea out there. Good Luck!
It never seems to really be about their personality but looks the majority of the time
Different experiences.
Most of the time in my experiences it's behavior/actions that induce fear or cross personal boundaries.
#1 A gal talks with a guy through a dating site and has a date with him. Then she gets an email from him sent to her work email address.
He got the email address by googling to find her company's website and search it's contact directory using only her first name as she didn't give him her last.
She found it creepy as he already had a way to communicate with her.
Only 1 guy said she wasn't over reacting, being overly sensitive, creating drama, or being a picky *****.
#2 A gal found it creepy that a secret admirer identified as male would leave notes and gifts at her doorstop then started getting flowers delivered at work.
Apparently she should be ashamed because it's romance which women are killing by acting like terrified little children.
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Ive seen women call guys creepy who seemed like normal guys approaching and talking to them then id aks the girl if its something said or did and she would say no he just seemed creepy
Most likely his behavior was creepy to her.
Creepy can be subjective. One gal may not mind a guy driving past her house and another might.
Likely you saw normal or excused, dismissed, or not noticed the things she saw as creepy.
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Originally Posted by JBT1980
Ive never heard a girl call a good looking guy approaching her creepy and theyrs times the guy came off as a socially awkard creep..Hed probably have to ask to lick her shoes or soemthing for any creepy word to be used..
I have heard a gal call a good looking guy approaching her creepy.
It seems to me that many men want to dismiss women saying a guy is creepy as either an emotional overreaction or it being about looks so they can deflect any injury from the word. I think this says it best
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So ladies do you think sometimes you judge creepiness more by how the guy looks then actually creepy behavior?
I and most gals from my experiences judge only on behavior.
I think many guys get the impression creepy is about looks because from my experiences guys only considered extreme behavior to be creepy. So things that gals consider creepy guys tend to either not notice or excuse/dismiss in good faith with 'nervous', 'shy', 'socially awkward', 'presumptuous'.
The it's about looks impression many guys get may also be due to attractive people generally tend to get away with more behaviors/actions.
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It never seems to really be about their personality but looks the majority of the time
Ive seen women call guys creepy who seemed like normal guys approaching and talking to them then id aks the girl if its something said or did and she would say no he just seemed creepy
Ive never heard a girl call a good looking guy approaching her creepy and theyrs times the guy came off as a socially awkard creep..Hed probably have to ask to lick her shoes or soemthing for any creepy word to be used..
So ladies do you think sometimes you judge creepiness more by how the guy looks then actually creepy behavior?
Say some uncultured girl raised in hicksville..Is approached by an artist type...or classical musician or say someone that is wise and attractive but older..This is out of their norm...so they see them as creepy..because they are different.
Now if a person does not look you in the eyes but is fixated on your breasts...this is a creep.
Or if they mention that they would like to get it on with two woman at once...............real creepy.
If they have tats that creep up the side of their neck- creep!
If they ask you to view porn------------run away....dangerous creeps.
If a man who is good and sincere..utters the words I love you...a little too soon...and the woman is turned off----------then she is the creep...Love can be rapid...and instant.
Oh and the worst kind of creep...if you have a sexual relationship with a guy who is so bored with the female anatomy that he insists on anal sex............King of the creeps.
It never seems to really be about their personality but looks the majority of the time
I know this is an old thread revivved by some thread necromancer, but I just wanted to chime in here.
Woman almost ALWAYS say a guy is creepy if they are not attracted to him. This is true in probably 99% of the "he's creepy" cases.
For example, an attractive 25 year old woman pulls into a gas station to put gas in her car, she notices some guys her age checking her out. They arent leering or anything, just checking her out. They are hispanic immigrants who look like they just got off work and putting gas in their old chevy truck. She thinks "Oh they are creepy" so she gets back in her while the gas is pumping. Another car pulls up with guys who are obviously leering at her. They are guys her age who are driving in an old chevy pulling in to get some beer. These are attractive young white guys who look like the typical guys that women like. These guys "woooo and wow" at her. She smiles, engages in a bit of conversation and thinks "they are cute".
Again, I think it's a matter of subjective views towards what "creepy" entails to certain women. While there are a lot of women here who are giving the "well, I only look at behavior and not looks when determining who is creepy," claim, and that may be true, it is naive to think that there are women who use the word "creep" to describe an unattractive guy trying to strike up a conversation. Whilst there are guys certainly deserving of being called creeps, I see quite a few guys who have been called that for no good reason at all; usually because they are either "unattractive" or if they come across as socially awkward. One of the saddest things I see the rare times I hit up a bar or club is seeing a guy who is socially awkward try and actually strike up a conversation with a girl, only to end up shot down rather hard.
I consider myself a bit of a socially awkward person, though I do my best to counteract that. It's a lot harder in execution than in theory.
So ladies do you think sometimes you judge creepiness more by how the guy looks then actually creepy behavior?
I don't know that I've ever actually called a person creepy, but several guys that have approached me throughout the years definitely creeped me out, and it wasn't necessarily their looks, though in some cases their looks contributed:
- guys that are obviously "slinking up" in their approach, rather than just approaching like any normal person would.
- too long fingernails
- greasy, snakey looking hair
- uses flattery rather than just honest, straight forward talk that conveys appreciation for life in general
- use of sarcasm or in some other way talks to me as if the two of us share a secret that no one else knows
Woman almost ALWAYS say a guy is creepy if they are not attracted to him. This is true in probably 99% of the "he's creepy" cases.
Most likely this is your experience.
Rather than a truthful objective generalization or factual reliable statistic.
I've had different experiences.
It seems to me that many men who say women calling a guy is creepy is 100%, 99% or mainly about looks want to deflect any injury from the word. I think this says it best
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Whilst there are guys certainly deserving of being called creeps, I see quite a few guys who have been called that for no good reason at all; usually because they are either "unattractive" or if they come across as socially awkward.
Socially awkward behavior can come off as creepy to many women if they find it induces fear or crosses their personal boundaries. As they don't know him they likely don't know whether there's good or bad intent behind his actions only his actions.
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