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not "relationshipy", but you guys often have rad advice so what do i do here....
so at the beginning of this year i moved out on my own. before that i had just gotten out of school and lived with the parents for 1 year to save money. i normally dont save much money because i go out all the time and i do like to drink, but on slower months (like now in the winter) i dont go out much and have been putting away a decent amount. either way i either break even or save a little each month, and i have a little bit stashed away for a rainy day fun (like if i were ever to get laid off I can live for 6 months fine). my dads usually asking me if im saving a lot so i can buy a house one day. i know they dont think im doing too well even though i think im doing great!
anywho, for xmas ive never seen my parents spend more then like $300 on me growing up. this xmas i got $100 worth of stuff....then $600 in cash. i know they paid off their house and cars at the beginning of the year so they have extra money from not having bills...plus they never buy anything themselves. getting $600 is a lot of money to me and it feels like they are just giving it to me because they might think im struggling. i kind of want to say its too much money to give me, but i also dont want to throw a gift back in their face.
ive also been reading tons of books on photography/photoshop and have been saving money/working OT for a camera - to teach myself and later open a small business for fun. this would help jump start that, but im not sure how comfortable i feel with the money still. maybe im just looking into all this too much and should just except the nice gift?
Take it! Parents do this kind of thing. It's not necessarily that they think you need it, it's that they have it to spend and you can use it more than they can.
If they could afford it, and apparently they can, take it, thank them, and put it to good use. Or blow it. A thought: you mentioned a photoshop thing. Could you have said something to them about it and they didn't want to get you something wrong so that's their gift? If so, use it wisely.
Keep it and use it for the purpose you explained and make a success of it then you can get them something nice. Do not, under any circumstances think it is because they think you are struggling or give it back to them.
i guess what makes it feel odd is i dont think they spent close to the amount they spent on me on my brother (lives at home) or sister (married, lots of cash).
i want a digital rebel xsi, which is on sale right now for....$600....
my mom told me to go treat myself to something nice. my dad said to maybe just use it for rent. originally when i opened the card i thought it was a lot of money...around $250-300. when i got home and actually counted i realized it was actually a lot more
not "relationshipy", but you guys often have rad advice so what do i do here....
so at the beginning of this year i moved out on my own. before that i had just gotten out of school and lived with the parents for 1 year to save money. i normally dont save much money because i go out all the time and i do like to drink, but on slower months (like now in the winter) i dont go out much and have been putting away a decent amount. either way i either break even or save a little each month, and i have a little bit stashed away for a rainy day fun (like if i were ever to get laid off I can live for 6 months fine). my dads usually asking me if im saving a lot so i can buy a house one day. i know they dont think im doing too well even though i think im doing great!
anywho, for xmas ive never seen my parents spend more then like $300 on me growing up. this xmas i got $100 worth of stuff....then $600 in cash. i know they paid off their house and cars at the beginning of the year so they have extra money from not having bills...plus they never buy anything themselves. getting $600 is a lot of money to me and it feels like they are just giving it to me because they might think im struggling. i kind of want to say its too much money to give me, but i also dont want to throw a gift back in their face.
ive also been reading tons of books on photography/photoshop and have been saving money/working OT for a camera - to teach myself and later open a small business for fun. this would help jump start that, but im not sure how comfortable i feel with the money still. maybe im just looking into all this too much and should just except the nice gift?
IMO, keep it because you may insult them if you give it back? Rugged
If you feel real uncomfortable to the point of not sleeping you can simply ask "Are you sure all this was ment for me because it sure seems like a lot."
I think they understand your dream and just want to support that and get you going.
I would have a hard time accepting that kind of cash too. I would put it in savings just because I'm a freak and would worry that something catastrophic might happen and they might need it back. But that's just me.
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