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My 17 yo daughter has a Boyfriend(18) - been dating for about 10 months-I like him. They go to eat dinner out alot- they do HW together and they go to friend's houses- he likes to pick which top she wears sometimes- he gave her a nice ring for her birthday- I was talking to my friend about them and she said he sounds "controlling" to me and watch out- that's what my ex-husband did- he gave me alot of nice gifts etc..they got divorced.BF hasn't given her that many NICE things- but he does buy her things- I do not see my daughter as much anymore- she works(babysits 2 x a week) she also has afterschool activities and has friends- they are teenagers and it is very hard totell them much b/c they know EVERYTHING- I guess i have never thought of him as controlling- this friend of mine has a 5 year old - I told her just wait- and she said no way will my child have a BF at that age- she'll be close to 60 by then- this boy treats my daughter well and she is happy -makes very good grades- should i be worried- Oh and she is on the pill if you are wondering-
Buying things leads to controlling leads to high odds of divorce...I don't buy it...
I agree.
I would also add that if he was truly trying to control her, he would want her spending every spare minute with him. If she's got other friends and after school activities and is generally happy....I wouldn't put too much stock in what your friend has said. If you see sudden changes in your daughter and the things she does and who she spends time with (or not) - then I'd start wondering.
You should also make sure the lines of communication are wide open with your daughter so that IF something were to ever happen, the odds of her telling you about it may be greater.
No, that's not controlling but its always good to be wary. But personally, i think your friend is a bit jealous of an 18 year old making out better in the man department than her.
I agree with the others. I don't see it as controlling because he buys her things or picks out her top every once in a while. I think your friend is paranoid.
thanks- what signs would say that he is controlling- other than being with him alot-they are together alot but with others around them- they like each other's company- they both had a parent leave them -his mom left him and his brothers(Dad has full custody) and her dad left her(I have custody) so i think they have something in common- I think she is jealous and paranoid- she does not liek people that have more than she does-
thanks- what signs would say that he is controlling- other than being with him alot-they are together alot but with others around them- they like each other's company- they both had a parent leave them -his mom left him and his brothers(Dad has full custody) and her dad left her(I have custody) so i think they have something in common- I think she is jealous and paranoid- she does not liek people that have more than she does-
As I said above:
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Originally Posted by wigirl920
If you see sudden changes in your daughter and the things she does and who she spends time with (or not) - then I'd start wondering.
Plus, things like grades slipping and anything else that might be out of character for her.
Really, I wouldn't spend a lot of time trying to find the "signs" that don't seem to be there. To me it sounds like they have a completely normally and healthy relationship.
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