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I've never had a desire to do that. In the first place I don't think that what I am and what I've done is something I have to be ashamed of so I don't see any reason why I'd need to pretend to be someone I'm not.
Last year I went out with someone I met on an online dating site. When we first talked on the phone, he told me his address. Now if you lived in NYC, you would know this particular address because it is very prestigious, costing a LOT of money to live there. I found it weird that he mentioned it to me - most people will tell you broadly where they live, perhaps a neighborhood. That he told me the address led me to think something was up.
I ended up going out with him because I enjoyed talking to him. By the third date it was revealed that he was a financial loser so I dumped him. The address he gave me was where his EX lived, not him. I think he lied to make it seem as though he had his act together but he did NOT.
As an example, he mentioned to me that he didn't have the toll money to get to work in New Jersey so he was going to drive the long way, adding an hour to the trip. Sorry, but if you are 40 years old and don't have the five bucks it takes to get to work, you are a loser and I have no use for you. That same week he mentioned, "I've solved my money problems for the week. I am going to borrow $30.00 from 3 different friends and that will hold me until payday." Again, if $90.00 will get you out of a jam, there is something wrong with you. $900.00 I get... that sounds like an unexpected emergency could have happened. But $90.00? Come on. Then he complained about losing his teaching position, and that his ex wouldn't give him an extra week to pay his child support.
I gave him the boot explaining that his life seems rather chaotic and that I am not in the position to get further involved with someone having a lot of problems... feel free to give me a call in a few months once things settle down. He got really mad and said, "This is a real problem I have with your gender... the first sign of money problems you women always take off!" and then he started to go on and on about it.
Of course, if he REALLY lived where he claimed, he'd likely have him money situation under control and wouldn't have been dating me in the first place...
I have a friend who tells a different story depending on who he is talking to.
If he thinks he's talking to a somewhat classy girl, he'll say he went to a good local high school (in reality for less than a year), and that he is going to school to be an architect (community college for about 1 month, no time recently). He will dig up anything he can think of from his past that would imply that he came from a solid education and a middle-class background. He guns for whatever he thinks they want to hear.
If he thinks he's talking to a girl who wants a "bad boy", he'll be more honest -- he will admit he is a convicted felon who spent a few years in prison. He might talk about the fights he's been in, or stories from the bad places he's lived, or show his tattoos, whatever.
What I find fascinating, is that because he is such a smooth talker, this works great for him! He is so friendly and charming, that he disarms women and they never really challenge him in a way that would cause him to stumble over his words. You ask how it turns out? -- he can hold down neither a job nor a relationship, and will only reluctantly acknowledge the value of either of these.
We went together to get piercings. When I was filling out the form I had to show an ID. She noticed but didn't say anything until we were driving home.
All she said was "Didn't you say that you were 23?" I was a bit but she just laughed and said "no big deal".
A bit different from the time that I found out about the girl who lied to me about her age. When you invite me to watch you run a marathon you need to consider what age group your time is going to show up in.
Nope! Never lied. Can't do it. Would have been fruitless anyway since I've always been friends with the girl/woman before ever asking them out. They'd have seen right through me if I'd tried to mislead them. Besides, a relationship built on lies is not my idea of a good time!
Hate to say it, but yeah I've done that. Early 20's, trying to impress a girl, she was hot, we were at a bar. Nuff said.
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but she just laughed and said "no big deal".
When you invite me to watch you run a marathon you need to consider what age group your time is going to show up in.
