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To plan who you will marry as young as I am (18)? I am not dating the person, but I know her very well and actually plan on marrying her around 10 years from now. How often does this actually work out for people who plan it? Is it weird or fairly common?
To plan who you will marry as young as I am (18)? I am not dating the person, but I know her very well and actually plan on marrying her around 10 years from now. How often does this actually work out for people who plan it? Is it weird or fairly common?
You will be a very different person in 10 years.
Heck, you'll be a very different person in 3 years.
What seems right now, won't seem right then. It never happens.
I know/have known plenty of couples that got married at 18 or thereabouts. They are either miserable or done (and I know you are saying that you will marry her at 28, but you are deciding in your head at 18).
Let's just say that 18 isn't the best time to be making decisions with far-reaching consequences. Enjoy being 18 and young.
Try a few samples before you decide on the main course.
It's not particularly weird given your age but ten years from now you probably won't even remember much about her. Are your hopes and dreams for the future the same now as they were when you were eight?
I don't think it's weird to be 18 and want to marry someone in particular someday in the future. But I do think it's weird that you say you're not even dating this girl but you plan to marry her. Is she even interested in dating you, much less marrying you? And no matter how well you know a person, being in a relationship with them is a very different thing. I think your expectations are a bit unrealistic.
I think it's a romantic notion but reality is you may finally date this person, maybe live with them and find that this person isn't your soulmate afterall. You really shouldn't plan so far ahead especially in matters of love. It's a little on the obsessive side if you ask me.
I'm afraid I don't think that is normal at all. To want to marry someone you really ought to know them extremely well and already have a functioning relationship with them. Dating would be a beginning...
The idea of putting a time limit on it is also rather bizarre.
Marriage or a mature relationship are about many things like trust, shared experiences, sharing the same goals and ideals in life, love, affection, sex, give and take, compromise and so many complex issues that this sort of a decision cannot be simply made on a romantic whim of what you think like would be like.
Life does not work like that. Neither does love.
Your idea seems a little idealistic and I am sorry to say a little childish too. Marriage is not about "playing house". It's a serious, mature issue which needs a lot of thought and true commitment.
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