Changing feelings (married, women, young, statistics)

[Tkt]

hello,

I ask this question to both men and women:

Do you think the feelings you have for someone can change?

For example, a women who isn't interested in a man, could she start liking him with time, or if he becomes more open with her? Or will she always feel the same way about him, no matter what?

And what about going from being interested, to uninterested? Do you think it's possible?

Do you think it is different for men and women?

If you have already experienced this, don't hesitate sharing

[2RUGGED4YOU]

Originally Posted by Tkt

hello,

I ask this question to both men and women:

Do you think the feelings you have for someone can change?

For example, a women who isn't interested in a man, could she start liking him with time, or if he becomes more open with her? Or will she always feel the same way about him, no matter what?

And what about going from being interested, to uninterested? Do you think it's possible?

Do you think it is different for men and women?

If you have already experienced this, don't hesitate sharing

I think it can improve with time. You don't walk in with trust. It has to be earned, IMO. Once people get to know one another a little better it builds and builds.

[Brenda_1988]

Hello. Yeah i definitely know that feelings change. Its inevitable. Maybe the feelings wont change drastically, but it still does depending on what has been said/done.

For me personally i always seem to take a long time to develop feelings for a guy, and once i realize i am interested and my want to see a guy, the guy is no longer interested anymore. I find that guys tend to like me more quickly compared to me liking them. I also find that men don't really have the patience to wait a little while until i figure out whether they are right for me.

In relationships my feelings tend to be stable. I'll go with the flow. And even if we have fought my feelings for him do not change, but my perspective on where the relationship will go may change.

[MontanaGuy]

I can't prove this by any statistics but I strongly suspect that changing feelings generally go from good to bad. Take the number of divorces for example. I believe it's roughly half of all marriages that will end in divorce in the US (we're actually at a much higher rate than most nations though) so obviously things went very badly in all of those failed marriages. I suspect that part of the problem is that when people are married and they're still fairly young that they're also both somewhat immature and will often times grow in different directions until they have little left in common. I've seen this happen with married friends a number of times. I also think that the powerful romantic urges that often spark a relationship in the first place may settle down to a lower level as time goes on and if that's all it was based on the relationship would be more likely to fail.

[PJSaturn]

MontanaGuy has a point, but I also think sometimes people change and grow closer. I know two couples who started out as just friends, going out with groups, not romantically involved at all. But after a while, they looked at each other with different eyes, in a romantic and sexual way. Both of these couples eventually got married, and both are very happy. In one of those couples, I do know that the guy had a crush on the girl from the beginning, but she "didn't feel that way" about him. She changed!

[yankeegirl313]

Yes, I think that feelings can change, and this goes for both male, and female.

[Sunnydee]

The more you get to know a person the more your feelings for them can grow or diminish. Feelings are seldom static. The best relationships I've seen have started out as friendships and blossomed into more.