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I believe dating is not about getting intimate ..its about knowing people .. their innate mysteries .. u cant get intimate with people unless u know them .. no matter how pretty or handsome one seems to be physically .. either ways it'll be LUST nothing else .. as theres a huge difference between satisfying what u desire and satisfying what u need .. Think about it !
Now guys, I don't mean to offend ur delicacy, but since when does a man have to be attracted to a woman in order to do the wild thang? If she's willing u r attracted. Hence, the concepts such of "WAM BAM THANKYA MAM" or one night stand mentality? I know some of u may still say "I don't want to date someone I am not attracted to," but doesn't that mean u don't want to do something else? It may mean u don't want to pay for a date with money or time, but u will capitalize given the opportunity. I could be wrong, but I doubt it!
I believe dating is not about getting intimate ..its about knowing people .. their innate mysteries .. u cant get intimate with people unless u know them .. no matter how pretty or handsome one seems to be physically .. either ways it'll be LUST nothing else .. as theres a huge difference between satisfying what u desire and satisfying what u need .. Think about it !
What you say is perfectly fine. I can of course meet with a female friend and I could want to know more about her and have a good time. But if it's just that, I would not call it "dating".
It's the same for you women actually. Let's say you go out for coffee with one of your male friends, and he happens to be the typical "nice guy". You are very comfortable with him and want to know about him, but you are not feeling attracted. Would you call that a "date"?
What you say is perfectly fine. I can of course meet with a female friend and I could want to know more about her and have a good time. But if it's just that, I would not call it "dating".
It's the same for you women actually. Let's say you go out for coffee with one of your male friends, and he happens to be the typical "nice guy". You are very comfortable with him and want to know about him, but you are not feeling attracted. Would you call that a "date"?
I agree with this, I mean sure when you decide to some something with anyone like a friend or something, you set a date(and place) to meet, that doesn't mean you "go on a date". To me dating is something you do exclusively to find out if someone is a potential boyfriend/girlfriend. What you do with others you want to get to know is meeting/hangin out.
Now guys, I don't mean to offend ur delicacy, but since when does a man have to be attracted to a woman in order to do the wild thang? If she's willing u r attracted. Hence, the concepts such of "WAM BAM THANKYA MAM" or one night stand mentality? I know some of u may still say "I don't want to date someone I am not attracted to," but doesn't that mean u don't want to do something else? It may mean u don't want to pay for a date with money or time, but u will capitalize given the opportunity. I could be wrong, but I doubt it!
Not always.
I'm sure most guys would pass on it if they were repulsed by the girl or not attracted in the slightest!
I believe dating is not about getting intimate ..its about knowing people .. their innate mysteries .. u cant get intimate with people unless u know them .. no matter how pretty or handsome one seems to be physically .. either ways it'll be LUST nothing else .. as theres a huge difference between satisfying what u desire and satisfying what u need .. Think about it !
Speaking from a woman's point of view... no, I could never date a man that I felt I wasn't attracted to romantically. If a man is only platonic friend material, I make it very clear that we aren't on a date, we are only platonic friends getting together and I pay my share of the bill.
I have found that it's just not worth going on dates with a man that I know I will not want as a boyfriend, as it's such a pain in the *ss to have to at some point tell them that they aren't relationship material for me. And I am also not interested in some sort of FWB arrangement either with a guy that isn't boyfriend material for me.
To me, a date is for when both sides are open to the idea of a romance and eventual relationship together. I also tend not to rush into the dating phase until I know the man well enough to feel that he is a good fit for me as a boyfriend. And I also have many male platonic friends that I spend time with due to common interests.
And I remember how about eight years ago, some friends of mine were trying to set me up with another friend of theirs. He really wasn't boyfriend material for me. He wasn't a good listener. And every time, after I bought a car or motorsports related item, he would either want to buy it from me or tell me how much of a mistake I made. Well he started off by wanting to do things together, and he would finish by saying... "is it a date then?" And I would always say "no!!! It's not a date!!" To which he would back off, and we never got together for activities that were just the two of us. And I have zero regrets for not dating him.
I also will never go on any "dates" with men, pretending romantic interest just to get a free meal from them.
And just because it's a single man and a single woman having a meal together, it doesn't make it a DATE imo.
To me dating is something you do exclusively to find out if someone is a potential boyfriend/girlfriend. What you do with others you want to get to know is meeting/hangin out.
Exactly, which is why the question posed is moot. To quote, for instance, Wikipedia:
"Dating is a form of courtship, and may include any social activity undertaken by, typically, two persons with the aim of each assessing the other's suitability as a partner in an intimate relationship or as a spouse. The word refers to the act of meeting and engaging in some mutually agreed upon social activity. Traditional dating activities include entertainment or a meal..."
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Nope, Have to agree with Ep..No desire to be intimate, go to friend zone..
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Think about it !
If she's willing u r attracted.
Hence, the concepts such of "WAM BAM THANKYA MAM" or one night stand mentality? I know some of u may still say "I don't want to date someone I am not attracted to," but doesn't that mean u don't want to do something else? It may mean u don't want to pay for a date with money or time, but u will capitalize given the opportunity. I could be wrong, but I doubt it!
