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It's like the person lying next to you is a stranger. All the things that only last week you found quirky and cute about them are suddenly annoying and infuriating.
I have been with my boyfriend for 7 years and I do love being with him, but something huge is missing, and has been missing since the beginning of this year. The connection I used to feel is not there anymore. I used to feel like we were one person and now I just feel like we have separate lives. On Friday nights he comes home and sits on the computer, I flick channels and get drunk by myself. I have NO interest in sex with him. His constant criticisms of people and tv shows and movies and everything infuriates me. And the worst part? I have no desire to fix any of it, I just want to move on. What does that mean? That I care for him but only as a friend? Has anybody else ever been through something similar?
Ditch the Debbie downer...go out with friends. Meet new people....or here is a thought make him talk to you..tell your feelings...warning he may have the same...see if you can work it out. If not time to move on, life is short.
It's like the person lying next to you is a stranger. All the things that only last week you found quirky and cute about them are suddenly annoying and infuriating.
I have been with my boyfriend for 7 years and I do love being with him, but something huge is missing, and has been missing since the beginning of this year. The connection I used to feel is not there anymore. I used to feel like we were one person and now I just feel like we have separate lives. On Friday nights he comes home and sits on the computer, I flick channels and get drunk by myself. I have NO interest in sex with him. His constant criticisms of people and tv shows and movies and everything infuriates me. And the worst part? I have no desire to fix any of it, I just want to move on. What does that mean? That I care for him but only as a friend? Has anybody else ever been through something similar?
Relationships are like gardens - they HAVE to be tended. If you never water your garden or pick the weeds the garden dies.
Sounds to me like you guys have ignored your garden
It's like the person lying next to you is a stranger. All the things that only last week you found quirky and cute about them are suddenly annoying and infuriating.
I have been with my boyfriend for 7 years and I do love being with him, but something huge is missing, and has been missing since the beginning of this year. The connection I used to feel is not there anymore. I used to feel like we were one person and now I just feel like we have separate lives. On Friday nights he comes home and sits on the computer, I flick channels and get drunk by myself. I have NO interest in sex with him. His constant criticisms of people and tv shows and movies and everything infuriates me. And the worst part? I have no desire to fix any of it, I just want to move on. What does that mean? That I care for him but only as a friend? Has anybody else ever been through something similar?
I woke up after my ex GF and I broke up and realized she was not the person she proclaimed to be. If she was she would not have done what she did to me. That wasn't love at all. It was cruel and almost seems like it was done on purpose to mess with a guys head and feelings. Lucky for me I am doing my best to shake it off and move on with my life. I will not let another woman do something like this to me ever again. If I would have listen to my gut there wouldn't be a problem now at all. There would not have even been a relationship. I would have walked away before it even got started. People who truly love you won't hurt you. That is the last thing they would want to do. I have also learned some very valuable lessons about relationships and won't make the same mistakes again. I knew better yet my desperation to find someone that fit impaired my judgment. Oh well, life goes on!!!
I woke up after my ex GF and I broke up and realized she was not the person she proclaimed to be. If she was she would not have done what she did to me. That wasn't love at all. It was cruel and almost seems like it was done on purpose to mess with a guys head and feelings. Lucky for me I am doing my best to shake it off and move on with my life. I will not let another woman do something like this to me ever again. If I would have listen to my gut there wouldn't be a problem now at all. There would not have even been a relationship. I would have walked away before it even got started. People who truly love you won't hurt you. That is the last thing they would want to do. I have also learned some very valuable lessons about relationships and won't make the same mistakes again. I knew better yet my desperation to find someone that fit impaired my judgment. Oh well, life goes on!!!
If I would have listen to my gut there wouldn't be a problem now at all. There would not have even been a relationship.
I wish I had listened to mine too. He was my protector and knight in shining armour more than anything. It should have never become a relationship. I was so young and silly.
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Originally Posted by 2RUGGED4YOU
I knew better yet my desperation to find someone that fit impaired my judgment.
That's how I feel. I am/was one of these dependant women who has ALWAYS had to have a man there, ever since I was 16. Now at 28 I am rethinking that, in fact I am desperate for some time alone..
I wish I had listened to mine too. He was my protector and knight in shining armour more than anything. It should have never become a relationship. I was so young and silly.
That's how I feel. I am/was one of these dependant women who has ALWAYS had to have a man there, ever since I was 16. Now at 28 I am rethinking that, in fact I am desperate for some time alone..
Well lets just say I am older than you!!!LOL.......... I am old enough to have known better. I win the dumba** of the year award for '10!!!!LOL......... Just don't make the same mistake twice.
Well lets just say I am older than you!!!LOL.......... I am old enough to have known better. I win the dumba** of the year award for '10!!!!LOL......... Just don't make the same mistake twice.
If you don't mind me asking, who broke it off?
He loves me very much, and that's what I am finding so hard to let go of. I am in love with his feelings for me, not with him, if that makes any sense? It's not fair, I feel like I am using him and he doesn't deserve it.
It's like the person lying next to you is a stranger. All the things that only last week you found quirky and cute about them are suddenly annoying and infuriating.
I have been with my boyfriend for 7 years and I do love being with him, but something huge is missing, and has been missing since the beginning of this year. The connection I used to feel is not there anymore. I used to feel like we were one person and now I just feel like we have separate lives. On Friday nights he comes home and sits on the computer, I flick channels and get drunk by myself. I have NO interest in sex with him. His constant criticisms of people and tv shows and movies and everything infuriates me. And the worst part? I have no desire to fix any of it, I just want to move on. What does that mean? That I care for him but only as a friend? Has anybody else ever been through something similar?
If you were married and had kids, I'd tell you that my grandmother told me she fell in and out of love with my grandfather several times during their 50 some year marriage. Since you're not and you don't, it's your call. My only caution is that you should realize that it's quite normal to fall out of love and if you work at it, you can fall back in love too. Falling in love the first time happens all by itself. After that, you have to work at it. What would your reasons be to work at this relationship? Would you be motivated to work on this relationship knowing that, most likely, the same thing will happen in the next relationship too?
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