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I suppose she could take her anger, pick up a gun, and kill her husband and the other woman instead. But luckily we have laws that allow her to seek a remedy in court instead. Marriage is a contract and the other woman infringed on hers.
I suppose she could take her anger, pick up a gun, and kill her husband and the other woman instead. But luckily we have laws that allow her to seek a remedy in court instead. Marriage is a contract and the other woman infringed on hers.
In reality marriage is more a committment than a contractual agreement (unless of course you have a pre-nup. THAT'S a contract!) After all, you don't sign a contract the day you marry, you just sign a license.
American marriage evolved from English common law traditions centuries old. From the earliest times marriage was a means of securing physical survival - survival of whole societies. It was viewed as a way of preserving morals, building strong families and even safe-gaurding civilization itself.
Traditionally, the husband had a duty to provide a safe house, pay for necessities such as food and clothing, and live in the house. The wife's obligations were maintaining a home, living in the home, having sexual relations with her husband, and rearing the couple's children. Today the underlying concept that marriage is a legal contract still remains but due to changes in society the legal obligations are just not the same.
This law you are so "happy" about is very old, going back to the 1800's I believe. Its only purpose in modern society is to allow a jilted spouse a way to exact revenge PERIOD. Frankly, I would be embarrassed to be the kind of woman who resorted to such a tactic.
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I think part of the problem here (aside from women becoming liberated and subsequently more able to financially support themselves) is the whole idea of romantic love being the driving force in marriages...how new is this concept? It's so new, it's not even being practiced all over the world, and in the places it is practiced, you have a higher divorce rate.
To Robbie70, you wrote about "the party responsible for the failure of the marriage"...since a marriage involves the joining of two individuals, there really is no clean demarcation indicating the actions of one of the parties that make that party solely responsible for its failure. Research shows that the vast majority of infidelity occurs 1) years after the marriage was initiated and 2) after one party has been hurt so often that the love that brought about the marriage has been severely damaged or ended entirely. In most cases, communication styles (at one extreme overly combativeness or at the other passivity) play a very large role in the lead-up to infidelity and can be readily predicted. This of course means that BOTH parties are at fault in the breakdown of the marriage since comminucation is a two-way enterprise, despite only one of the parties being unfaithful.
Having been through an acrimonious divorce, its finality was beneficial to the children in many, many ways. It is trite to suggest that divorce should be made more difficult than marriages that themselves are extremely deleterious to all involved, both spouses and children.
I would imagine that the lover will appeal, and let's see if she actually will have to pay anything. That's pretty ridiculous, imho.
Yeah, it's not hard to pack a jury with knuckleheads in many parts of the United States. (There is a reason about 1/2 of all class actions lawsuits are brought in Mississippi...a state with <1% of the US population. )
I think part of the problem here (aside from women becoming liberated and subsequently more able to financially support themselves) is the whole idea of romantic love being the driving force in marriages...how new is this concept? It's so new, it's not even being practiced all over the world, and in the places it is practiced, you have a higher divorce rate.
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