A Reversal of the Order... (dating, married, love, cheating)

[chacho_keva]

In January of 1979, at 18 years of age, I met Victoria. As if by magic, we were instantly attracted to each other.

It wasn't but a week later when she finally gave me her phone number.

We'd talk on the phone endlessly on days we couldn't see each other.

As much as I loved Victoria, I had made up my mind to join the military.

In August of that year, I left for bootcamp.

For three and a half months, Victoria wrote regularly with words of encouragement, a few jokes, and her lovely Polaroid pictures.

Fast forward 30 years into the present. How do some of us go about meeting potential partners?

It sometimes starts when we see the lovely picture of a potential partner in a dating website.

After online contact is established, the usual back-and-forth messaging will include a few jokes, and maybe a few words of encouragement.

If all goes well, this will progress into a cautious exchange of phone numbers followed by cordial conversations.

Provided the potential partner passes the "conversational litmus test" the last thing to occur is a face-to-face meeting with that person.

It does not cease to amaze me how the internet has completely reversed the order by which we sometimes go about meeting potential partners.

Victoria...I'm so glad I held you in my arms...before I held your pictures in my hands!

[Currency Pair Crocodile]

This beats the notebook. Darn it, you don't get pop corn when you need it

[smartalx]

You are absolutely right on this one. I noted it a few years back and pondered how stable these online relationships could be. Attraction and chemistry is a very important glue in a relationship. You invest a lot of time and energy getting to "know" someone and then you meet. What if you are more in love with the idea of the person rather than the real person? The foundation is the most important thing in EVERYTHING in life. Not just buildings. Education too. And especially relationships. Without a good foundation built on something real, I just can't understand how these relationships last.

[Raena77]

Originally Posted by chacho_keva

In January of 1979, at 18 years of age, I met Victoria. As if by magic, we were instantly attracted to each other.

It wasn't but a week later when she finally gave me her phone number.

We'd talk on the phone endlessly on days we couldn't see each other.

As much as I loved Victoria, I had made up my mind to join the military.

In August of that year, I left for bootcamp.

For three and a half months, Victoria wrote regularly with words of encouragement, a few jokes, and her lovely Polaroid pictures.

Fast forward 30 years into the present. How do some of us go about meeting potential partners?

It sometimes starts when we see the lovely picture of a potential partner in a dating website.

After online contact is established, the usual back-and-forth messaging will include a few jokes, and maybe a few words of encouragement.

If all goes well, this will progress into a cautious exchange of phone numbers followed by cordial conversations.

Provided the potential partner passes the "conversational litmus test" the last thing to occur is a face-to-face meeting with that person.

It does not cease to amaze me how the internet has completely reversed the order by which we sometimes go about meeting potential partners.

Victoria...I'm so glad I held you in my arms...before I held your pictures in my hands!

I see your point, but I don't think every date is like this.

[Raena77]

Originally Posted by Antlered Chamataka

This beats the notebook. Darn it, you don't get pop corn when you need it

It reminds me of a "Dear John"

[JSizzle225]

Originally Posted by chacho_keva

In January of 1979, at 18 years of age, I met Victoria. As if by magic, we were instantly attracted to each other.

It wasn't but a week later when she finally gave me her phone number.

We'd talk on the phone endlessly on days we couldn't see each other.

As much as I loved Victoria, I had made up my mind to join the military.

In August of that year, I left for bootcamp.

For three and a half months, Victoria wrote regularly with words of encouragement, a few jokes, and her lovely Polaroid pictures.

Fast forward 30 years into the present. How do some of us go about meeting potential partners?

It sometimes starts when we see the lovely picture of a potential partner in a dating website.

After online contact is established, the usual back-and-forth messaging will include a few jokes, and maybe a few words of encouragement.

If all goes well, this will progress into a cautious exchange of phone numbers followed by cordial conversations.

Provided the potential partner passes the "conversational litmus test" the last thing to occur is a face-to-face meeting with that person.

It does not cease to amaze me how the internet has completely reversed the order by which we sometimes go about meeting potential partners.

Victoria...I'm so glad I held you in my arms...before I held your pictures in my hands!

The rest of the post is up for debate, the part in blue is beautiful.

[fallingwater]

Lovely thread. I am grateful I am married. I have a few friends that are online dating and the horror stories they tell me make me cringe. They spend countless hours talking to people, find one that really perks their interest, spend weeks or months focusing on this person and then find out the person is fake, a criminal or the chemistry doesn't exist in the real world. I know there are success stories out there from online dating. I would just like to hear one.

[chacho_keva]

Originally Posted by fallingwater

Lovely thread. I am grateful I am married. I have a few friends that are online dating and the horror stories they tell me make me cringe. They spend countless hours talking to people, find one that really perks their interest, spend weeks or months focusing on this person and then find out the person is fake, a criminal or the chemistry doesn't exist in the real world. I know there are success stories out there from online dating. I would just like to hear one.

I hear ya. I've had a few good flings and several bad dates as a result of online dating, but that's about it! Again, I'm just amazed how the internet has placed the order of dating completely on its head.

[JSizzle225]

Originally Posted by chacho_keva

I hear ya. I've had a few good flings and several bad dates as a result of online dating, but that's about it! Again, I'm just amazed how the internet has placed the order of dating completely on its head.

Wait one cotton picking second. If you met Victoria in 1979 how were you online dating?

I have come to two conclusions:

1) You are cheating on Victoria.

2) You are Al Gore and created online dating right after you created the internet itself.

[chacho_keva]

Originally Posted by JSizzle225

Wait one cotton picking second. If you met Victoria in 1979 how were you online dating?

I have come to two conclusions:

1) You are cheating on Victoria.

2) You are Al Gore and created online dating right after you created the internet itself.

I never stated that I married Victoria. I simply dated her between January and August of 1979.