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I was wondering if a persons relationship with their parents signify how they will handle other relationships.
My ex fiancee had a poor relationship with both her father and mother. Infact she had completely kicked her mother out of her life while we were together.
When the going got tough in our relationship, she kicked me to the curb as well.
I do not mean to offend anyone here. I am just interested to find out whether this could have been a red flag or not?
Each person is different. While their relationship growing up is a factor in how they view themselves and their self esteem and sexuality as an adult it's difficult to say and depends on how they''ve come to terms with it. I had a very volitile relationship with one of my parents growing up, but now as an adult I have come to terms with it and it has no bearing on my relationships with other people. It's history. I can't say this is true for all people.
How parents treat each other is a big factor in how a person sees relationships.
I was wondering if a persons relationship with their parents signify how they will handle other relationships.
My ex fiancee had a poor relationship with both her father and mother. Infact she had completely kicked her mother out of her life while we were together.
When the going got tough in our relationship, she kicked me to the curb as well.
I do not mean to offend anyone here. I am just interested to find out whether this could have been a red flag or not?
Thanks.
A person can be really close to their parents and still kick you to the curb.
1. Does the person have a high level of conflict with her parents? If so, then what you see Mom and Pop, is probably what you get.
2. Does the person get along pretty well with her parents? Well that could give her the confidence to try some new ways of relating and not necessarily follow everything her parents think is a appropriate in a relationship.
3. If one or both parents are dysfunctional, sometimes this situation produces a person who would rather do God knows what then follow in Mom and Dad's dysfunctional footsteps. Their behavior taught her how NOT to be! But then too, sometimes this also produces a child with control issues and abandonment issues. So if there is discernable dysfunction with the parental units, I would pay a little extra attention there.
I was wondering if a persons relationship with their parents signify how they will handle other relationships.
My ex fiancee had a poor relationship with both her father and mother. Infact she had completely kicked her mother out of her life while we were together.
When the going got tough in our relationship, she kicked me to the curb as well.
I do not mean to offend anyone here. I am just interested to find out whether this could have been a red flag or not?
Thanks.
It can definitely be a red flag if there is volitile or poor relationship.
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How her parents treat eachother is as valuable of an indicator. I also think that at least as important is whether or not she has long term, meaningful relationships with other women that you enjoy spending time with and whether or not her behavior is significantly different with her friends than it is with you.
I was wondering if a persons relationship with their parents signify how they will handle other relationships.
My ex fiancee had a poor relationship with both her father and mother. Infact she had completely kicked her mother out of her life while we were together.
When the going got tough in our relationship, she kicked me to the curb as well.
I do not mean to offend anyone here. I am just interested to find out whether this could have been a red flag or not?
Thanks.
A person's relationship with EVERYONE is indicative of their level of healthiness emotionally, especially regarding parents, family members, friends, and people at work (in that order).
The reason that parents are most important is because they are the ones who raised this person and would have the deepest impact on how they view relationships and behave.
Having a relationship with their parents does not mean they have to agree with them if the parents are dysfunctional. It simply means you are respectful and loving in spite of their dysfunctionism. Now of course if someone is dangerous, it's wise to stay clear of that person.
How one treats strangers such as waiters and clerks is another clue. Or how they treat animals and children. These are all good indicators of whether or not they are healthy enough for a long term commitment.
So, yes, when you meet a person you like, it is very important to check on how they relate to everybody else, and not just you.
I was wondering if a persons relationship with their parents signify how they will handle other relationships.
My ex fiancee had a poor relationship with both her father and mother. Infact she had completely kicked her mother out of her life while we were together.
When the going got tough in our relationship, she kicked me to the curb as well.
I do not mean to offend anyone here. I am just interested to find out whether this could have been a red flag or not?
Thanks.
It's a HUGE red flag. Your ex-fiancee exhibits signs of selfishness (the I only care about myself kind).
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