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Just asking, as my ex said that me constantly checking his history was a hindrance to our trust in one another.
A little background: I checked his history and found pornography of a disturbing nature. When I discovered it I cried, and it ate away at me so much I had to confront him about it, even though it made me look like a psycho for checking.
He stopped looking at it after he knew I checked (or just as likely just learned how to delete his history off the browser), but just the fact that I continued to check really disturbed him.
I guess I'm just an inveterately nosy person, and I don't know why you'd want to be intimate with someone and not know what sites they view on their free time. I understand it's a violation of trust to snoop. Doesn't stop the compulsion.
What are your thoughts?
If you find it disturbing you may want to rethink your relationship.
Correct, which is why everyone should do two things:
1. Use Firefox (and *NOT* MS Explorer) as your browser. Firefox is MUCH faster, much safer than Explorer (which is slower, more susceptible to malware, too integrated with Windows and MS programs, and, hence, tougher to clean).
psycho to psycho... you can also check their cache, which will show images viewed, if they change their settings to automatically delete their browsing history.
LOL...I'm with you on the psycho part compared to some of the other posters just based off of the fact that I did uncover someone cheating on me because of things they said on myspace. To all the ones who say their partner should trust them or leave them, well I would say trust is a thing that has to be earned. I can see if you have known someone for years, but if the relationship is in it's first couple months or a year then I would say make your partner prove that you can trust them and vice versa. You have nothing to lose unless you have something to hide.
Nope. As to why... because there's no need. He wouldn't look at kiddie porn or snuff, and those are the only two things I'd be upset about. Besides, I can glance over and see the porn he's looking at any time I want... it isn't something he has to hide from me because it doesn't bother me for him to look at it. Heck, I've bought a couple of videos for him I know he'd enjoy... and he has... and then I've enjoyed him.
I honestly don't get why people marry someone they have to hide stuff from... why on earth do people get involved with someone with whom they create a situation where they have to hide who they are, or what they are interested in? I'm just never going to comprehend that.
Then again, I also don't understand staying involved with someone you don't trust.
The dishonesty inherent in so many relationships is just staggering to me. All the ways couples lie to each other, and lie to themselves. Why would anyone want to live like that?
You are right on. EXCELLENT POINTS!!! I will rep you when I am done.
I think alot of it is insecurities in themselves. They think they can control what everyone around them does and they will destroy alot of relationships.
I have an ex-wife like you. She snooped into everything I ever did. I found out the reason later, she was having an affair with my brother-in-law. If I were married to you, I'd kick your a$$ out as soon as I found out you had checked my computer. No, I wouldn't break both of your arms, wouldn't even think about it, but you would not be able to look at my computer again, either. Can you tell people like you really, really irritate me? I better stop now before I tell you what I really think, you did ask for my thoughts...
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