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this is how the single white guys I know approach women they find attractive --
1) they approach the person said woman is talking to and begin to have a loud conversation with other person
OR
act like she has the plague, and pays attention to everyone else around her flirting with any women conveniently nearby and loudly complementing them, or bragging about something they bought or have done pushing the woman out of the convo.
I still see this at workplaces after all these years where black to white ratio is about even. oh it applies to out in public too unless alcohol is handy to loosen them up lol
I am white and black guys treat me normal, act unpretentious and cordial..are nice to work with. the single white ones seem act more on the stuck up side like their stuff don't stink or something. They were way worse when I was single tho . good thing I married someone I knew for years, would be sol in this climate if wanted to marry a white guy!
lol I should specify its guys I know, forgot it's a big internet out there, shouldn't have asked the guys on here to admit it I think its a regional thing cause the guys in my zip code have it down pat!!!
I'm a shy guy...and very seldom intrested in black girls... but I do think white guys are more prone to leaving the persuit of women to places where it's "easier".
Where I lived as a kid most noneuropean girls had an arsenal of brothers, uncles, cousins and stuff who were just ready to kick my a~~ should I even wink at her, besides with my racist mother she woulda strung me up on the wall if I brought home a foreign girl...
OK..I’m married, so have no vested interest but to satisfy my curiosity…..
How do white guys approach women they find attractive? I’m Black, so I’m used to the direct approach: guy sees me, approaches me, asks my name, etc., etc……from white guys, I see that they look at me and are what I consider interested, yet they don’t do anything. I’m in the Metro DC area, so I’m mainly talking about how you would approach a female if you’re in the subway, on a bus, on the street vs. in a bar where it’s “easier”. Is it just that there’s an intimidation factor in approaching a black girl that you find attractive?
Please satisfy my curiosity? J
Couldn't be a wedding ring they are seeing, making them turn the other way?
lol I should specify its guys I know, forgot it's a big internet out there, shouldn't have asked the guys on here to admit it I think its a regional thing cause the guys in my zip code have it down pat!!!
Meh I can only speak for myself anyway. And besides my style which is laid back usually might not be what other guys are like. I tend to let women make the move, by at least sending a signal. I would hardly ever just go up to woman who doesn't even realize I am there and just try for it. I try to read people, sometimes I may be wrong but it is what I do.
If I am walking past you looking at you with a look of "hi errr hey!!" and you just give a look back that is like "I'm just smiling back to be courteous but read me, I am not interested" or just won't even acknowledge my existence well I am not going to "bother" you then.
A woman I work with, a little while ago I was walking past her and had a devilish grin like "I am happy, I have got something on my mind and it ain't nice". She commented "what 'cha doing with that ear to ear devilish grin?" Well that was the que to get me to stop and start flirting a little, never actually telling her why I had such a devilish grin though, I was just feeling badass and confident and happy that day and I made sure she saw it.
But, if she had just said "hey" in a way that people do for a normal "good morning" than I would have just said a a formal good morning and kept on trucking by. Why? Because I would have been sent a signal that there is no real interest and to try flirting or hitting on her might have annoyed her if anything.
So my point is, giving me that "look", or saying something, or playing with your hair , or some kind of hint is what I prefer.Why? because I don't want to act like a typical horndog, women have the upper hand in choosing anyway, so the way I see it sending me a signal means you like.
I walk up and introduce myself or I have the bartender send them a drink.
That technique scares me. What if she tells the Bartender to take it back? That's almost as bad as asking a strange woman out and her saying "hell no".
Oh and speaking of the woman I work with, one time when I was walking by she took the end of my hair and flung it. If a girl wants me to flirt, than send me a little flirting signal first. Just imagine if a guy just took a girls hair and flung it, it might be met with a very....very bad response.
For you all who are saying color don't matter, it does really. But not in any discriminatory way. Too many cultural differences don't make for a long lasting relationship. Too many fingers pointing your way because the couple are different adds to the stress.
I'm a white guy and have dated a black woman. She was breathtakingly beautiful.....ok she was hot. All the guys turned their heads at her and she was in my arm as we walked through the casino.
She came up to me, I never would have approached her. I seen her often at the OTB betting on Horses which is where I was quite often. I always looked at her. We were the difference physically between night and day. She was 8" taller then I. Legs up to her armpits, natural D cuppers, maybe 130 pounds, pretty face, long straight hair and a caboose any man would trade his left ball for.
In time our lust for each other was overshadowed by our cultural differences. Sometimes the mumbling we heard by others hurt. She was the stereotypical African American gal. I hated her music, her taste in food and her loud mouth in a crowd, but she was a good person which is the most important thing. In the end we parted ways but I will never forget what she could do in the intimacy department. Holly Moses!!!
Would I do it again? Yup. Would I make the first move if I saw her first and felt she was attractive enough that I wanted to meet her? Nope. Why? I have no honest answer.
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I think its a regional thing cause the guys in my zip code have it down pat!!!
