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We are a non-denominational Christian family who has recently moved to SLC, UT...so we're learning a lot about the Mormon faith. We've made wonderful LDS friends in our neighborhood and spend a lot of time hanging out with them. They are faithful Mormons but they aren't extremist, which, in my own opinion means they aren't constantly trying to get us to convert (I believe they accept us for who we are along with the fact we don't have any intention to switch religions), they can have kind of raunchy (but funny) conversations and just aren't super uptight (am I going to be blasted for saying Mormons can be uptight??). They've made comments in the past that my husband and I should feel free to "add anything we want" to our drinks when we've been outside hanging out with them. When we had some neighbors over for dinner recently, I enjoyed a class of wine in their company without issue.
So, I think they are comfortable with others drinking - they just don't indulge with us, which is totally fine.
In a week or so we're having a ladies (all Mormon ladies except me) night out that will include dinner and movie. Would it be inappropriate for me to order a glass of wine when I'm out with them in public? I'd hate for someone from their ward to see us all and have a problem with them hanging out with somebody who is drinking. Am I being ridiculous?
We are a non-denominational Christian family who has recently moved to SLC, UT...so we're learning a lot about the Mormon faith. We've made wonderful LDS friends in our neighborhood and spend a lot of time hanging out with them. They are faithful Mormons but they aren't extremist, which, in my own opinion means they aren't constantly trying to get us to convert (I believe they accept us for who we are along with the fact we don't have any intention to switch religions), they can have kind of raunchy (but funny) conversations and just aren't super uptight (am I going to be blasted for saying Mormons can be uptight??). They've made comments in the past that my husband and I should feel free to "add anything we want" to our drinks when we've been outside hanging out with them. When we had some neighbors over for dinner recently, I enjoyed a class of wine in their company without issue.
So, I think they are comfortable with others drinking - they just don't indulge with us, which is totally fine.
In a week or so we're having a ladies (all Mormon ladies except me) night out that will include dinner and movie. Would it be inappropriate for me to order a glass of wine when I'm out with them in public? I'd hate for someone from their ward to see us all and have a problem with them hanging out with somebody who is drinking. Am I being ridiculous?
You are not being ridiculous; you're just being cautious, and that's good. Just based on what you've said, it sounds to me as if you'd be fine ordering a glass of wine. Your LDS friends remind me of myself, and it certainly wouldn't bother me at all for you to do that. (I'd probably be envious, though, since I really do like wine!) As far as people from their ward being judgmental, who cares? The liklihood that you'll even see somebody is kind of remote, and anybody who would judge your LDS friends for being open-minded about what you drink isn't worth worrying about. Have fun, and have one for me.
In a week or so we're having a ladies (all Mormon ladies except me) night out that will include dinner and movie. Would it be inappropriate for me to order a glass of wine when I'm out with them in public? I'd hate for someone from their ward to see us all and have a problem with them hanging out with somebody who is drinking. Am I being ridiculous?
It's nice that you're so concientious of others whom you'll be spending time with, but unless one glass of wine has deliterious effects on you, I wouldn't worry about it.
You don't have to be Mormon to know how annoying drunk friends can be, so as long as you're not drinking to excess and as long as wine doesn't make you, well ... weird, you should raise your glass and have at it.
I confess to a lack of seriousness about such silly rules, but I agree with the advice given so far. If anyone from their ward has a problem just tell them Jesus changed your water into wine!
As an Evangelical I personally do not drink. I'd rather not "cause one to stumble" than to drink a glass of wine or a beer. Like it or not, people do see your actions, and they come to a conclusion about you, or about what you do based on it. I am not going to say that drinking is evil--I don't believe that. But I would suggest caution in doing so.
My best suggestion: ask your friend. They have told you that they don't mind watching you drink. They will know if is bothers other people in the party.
As an Evangelical I personally do not drink. I'd rather not "cause one to stumble" than to drink a glass of wine or a beer. Like it or not, people do see your actions, and they come to a conclusion about you, or about what you do based on it. I am not going to say that drinking is evil--I don't believe that. But I would suggest caution in doing so.
Lighten up. Jesus drank. Ever been to a genuine Passover Seder? Four, yes four cups of wine. And we're not talking this "new wine" stuff. Nope. 13% stuff. As a kid I remember stumbling out of temple after Seder. Even tho my parents were atheists they liked the Jewish traditions.
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Drinking in front of LDS friends
